how to deal?!?

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Registered: 07-08-2006
how to deal?!?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 1:27pm
ok so me and my fiance just broke up a few days ago. We have been thru soo much and i still love him. We just have to go our seperate ways because of things that happened. I am upset and want to move on. I just would like some advice and to talk to if anyone is feeling the same or feels they can help me please reply. Will explain situation if u wanna talk.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: rajeenah
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 1:54pm

Whatever the reasons are for the break up, you'll go through the grieving process. You'll be in shock, will go through negation (it's not happening), will feel anger and depression, wsill try to negociate what happened and lastly will come to terms and accept that it's over and move on. It'll take time.

First off you need to take care of your needs. Cry if you have to, but rememeber that the break up occurred and there is no going back. Allow yourself to feel sad and depressed because you lost someone you loved/love. You spent time with him and have memories of it. Time will heal your wounds.

Get out and get together with friends and people who will support you in this time of need. You need comfort and to do things you like.

Unfortunatelly, there is no cure for a broken heart. In time acceptance will come and you'll be able to move on.

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Registered: 12-28-2005
In reply to: rajeenah
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 3:20pm
Why did you break up? I just went through the same thing, so I'm probably experiencing the same kinds of emotions as you.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
In reply to: rajeenah
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 1:23am

I am sorry about your breakup. What helped me was talking to my friends and family anytime that I needed to talk and also going to therapy. You'd be amazed the things you learn about yourself.

Be nice to yourself, treat yourself out to things you like to do. Try not to be too hard on yourself; it is okay to feel sad/hurt-- allow yourself to sit in those feelings. Eventually they get smaller and smaller.