How to deal with rejection?
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How to deal with rejection?
| Thu, 12-16-2004 - 12:20am |
My question is, how does one deal with rejection? I hate the idea of someone spending time with me, having sex with me, knowing me intimately and then not wanting me, or wanting someone else. I can't deal with being not wanted. In my specific case, I dated my neighbor, who turned out to be the biggest lying, using skank of all time.
But when I see him with another girl, I just start feeling anxious, because he had me and something about me was't worth keeping. Why do I care about his opinion?
I don't know why. i just want my personhood and company to be valued and I can't deal with being rejected. Any positve thinking ideas to cope with rejection? How do I stop thinking that the next woman a guy goes out with is better than me? How can I look at a guy who rejects me an dnot feel bad about myself?
But when I see him with another girl, I just start feeling anxious, because he had me and something about me was't worth keeping. Why do I care about his opinion?
I don't know why. i just want my personhood and company to be valued and I can't deal with being rejected. Any positve thinking ideas to cope with rejection? How do I stop thinking that the next woman a guy goes out with is better than me? How can I look at a guy who rejects me an dnot feel bad about myself?

I know exactly how you feel. I had dated someone for only 4 months but went to his family for Thanksgiving and he was supposed to go with me to my family for Christmas, I thought everything was perfect. The very next weekend December 4th, out of the blue he breaks up with me. And I still feel like crap. Why? Everyone keeps telling me I'm a wonderful person and that he's an idiot for not seeing how lucky he was to be with me. But that doesn't make me feel any better. I know I don't have any advice for you, but I guess I wanted you to know that you are not alone. I am equally confused and frustrated.
I was dumped the first time in my life a little over 2 months ago....we were engaged and getting married in spring 2005. Now it's gone and I'm devastated...(was devastated).
I understand exactly how you are feeling....it sucks. Just know that you are better than what he made you feel.
it is not always true that if he walks away then he is the better one.
Look anywhere in the world for examples. Look at Prince Charles and Lady DI.
The whole world can tell you who is the better one of the two almost unanimously.
Is that a good enough example?
I said to my Ex when he told me his feelings for me have changed that I m thankful I m not in his position. that I know if I tell a person "You are the best thing that ever happened to me" I wont be telling them 3 months later "I want to be friends with you kuz my feelings have changed"
I sarcastically added: the next time you meet a wonderful woman and decide to tell her the-your-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-me conversation, please make sure you add "For now" since you never know how your feelings will change overnight and without any external trigger. I m thankful to be confident that when I love someone I can at least say I love them as long as they appreciate this love I give them...
Rejecting something/someone you desperately wanted means only you dont know what you want and you are in bigger sh*t than the person you reject.
hope this helped
Dealing with rejection means valuing yourself more than you value someone else's opinion or desire for you. It means self-love and self-care above all. If you don't love and care for yourself first, how will someone else?
Instead of focusing on "he wants someone else" or "he likes her better" ... just keep telling yourself "I deserve better" and "His loss!" After all, you do deserve better ... who wants to be with a lying skank?