How to deal?

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Registered: 11-08-2007
How to deal?
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 9:10am
So my ex broke up with me less than a month ago (after a 5 year relationship) because he wanted "freedom". He told me there was no other girl in the picture and he wanted to experience being single for a couple of years because he felt he missed out on a lot during our relationship. Well, somehow I heard a rumor that he might be seeing someone new already! I am brokenhearted all over again. He broke up with me to be single and if he's seeing someone else already, then what the heck?! I knew I'd have to deal with him dating other people, but I didn't know it would be within a month? Mutual friends have told me that the rumor is NOT true. I know I shouldn't have even asked them about it, but I just had to know. Even if it weren't true, i realized that the thought of him dating someone new will great affect me. How do you deal with your ex dating someone new?


Edited 11/28/2007 9:11 am ET by ming_88

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Registered: 07-23-2007
In reply to: ming_88
Sat, 12-01-2007 - 5:46pm

I am very happy to help. It is very painfully true, that they have moved on, and are just

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Registered: 11-27-2007
In reply to: ming_88
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 4:29pm

Hi Vanessa,


Thanks again for your reply. I'm really looking forward to that day, when I can see him again and feel no hurt, and also, when I can get out of my head that he'll come to his senses eventually! Until then, I'm trying to do the right thing by keeping busy and by having quiet time too - allowing myself to grieve and to be distracted.


I also think I'll be looking for some good reading materials to help boost my self-esteem.


TTFN


Alison


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Registered: 07-23-2007
In reply to: ming_88
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 5:47pm

Hey Ailson,


I wish you the best on healing yourself, just remember you might have relapses, but don't be too hard on yourself it will take baby steps to move forward. Great idea in picking up some reading material, it will definitely help in exploring and finding out more about yourself. Again best of luck,

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