How did I stoop this low? please help

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Registered: 11-15-2007
How did I stoop this low? please help
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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 1:47am

To be honest, I don't even know where to begin. My first true love broke my heart, not one, but 4 times! Like most of the girls on this board, things were great, i had never felt so loved and beautiful until i met him. he was honest with me up front, that he didn't have a lot of money and bad credit, i figured,... ahhh who cares?

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Registered: 11-16-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 10:18am

When I read your story I had flashbacks and I know that what you want is for him to just call, come back and live happy ever after. You want to pick up the phone and call him and be upset asking why he has not e-mailed or call you. And probably depending on how he is feeling at the time, the conversation can become more upsetting or relieving. But no matter what,

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 12:21pm
Any one of the episodes you describe would be a dumpable offense in my book. Let him go, and when it hurts, think about all the pain you'll be saving yourself in the long run. Having an illness is not an excuse to abuse people, and that's what he's done to you. I vote for getting the yucky part over now and moving on to something so much better you probably can't even imagine it right now. But it's out there, waiting for you, once you put this nightmare behind you. I hope you do, and do it now.
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Registered: 03-29-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 2:59pm

I was reading your post and my mouth completely dropped open. How dare he talk to you that way.


I totally understand how you feel. My ex-husband and brother are both bi-polar. Let me tell you that you probably will not like my advice but here it is. GET AWAY FROM HIM! People that are bi-polar and refuse to take their meds regularly are ticking time bombs and all they will do is make you feel like you are the scum of the earth. Of course when they are in a good mood you are the best thing that ever happened to them, they can't imagine life without you BLAH BLAH BLAH! If he is not willing to take care of himself he will never be able to take care of you. My ex-husband could one minute be telling me that I was his princess and literally the next minute I was a whore and he wanted me dead.


Honey you deserve better just as I deserved better. It was a little harder for me to leave since I had a child with him but let me tell you my mom and dad raised me better than that. You never talk to a woman like that, let alone the woman you supposedly love.


He is sick and needs help. You cannot help him. If he calls you HANG UP. Don’t listen to his nasty degrading comments. Why would you want to do that to yourself? You are better than that. We are all better than that.


You need to cut off all communication with him. Change your number. Do not allow yourself to be subjected to this type of abuse. That is exactly what that is abuse. Go out with girlfriends and have fun. So what if he is out hooking up with a bunch of other girls let him catch what I like to call the ���Itchy-Itchy” and see how cool he is then.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:33pm

Welcome to the board jenniwinks,


How sad for you.