How do I break up?

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Registered: 01-18-2008
How do I break up?
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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 8:09am

I've decided it needs to be done. He and I are going to drive each other nuts. We are such a mismatch. But how do I do it? I am bad at saying no. I had a long term relationship that had to end about 2 years before it did. But I couldnt get myself to kick him out because he was so broke he couldnt support himself. So stupid me just let him live with me until he finally got

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 9:07am

Laurie,


My situation was similar to yours in a way . I knew in my heart that my 4 almost 5 year relationship was no longer. He couldn't hold a job, he was becoming physically abusive as well as verbally. It was slowly coming apart at the seams. We were engaged, and I knew in my heart, he was not the one and I NEVER wanted to legally be bound to this man. He was physically, financially, mentally draining me...mind you I worked full time and I went to school full time, and I had to student teach. It was all WAY too much. Ontop of that, I was constantly worried about him losing his job again, *and he did* ....But I couldn't kick him out.... I just didn't have it in me.Even though the last year, I was so miserable that I had started taking all these pills to make it through the day, and gained a bunch of weight..on top of that




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Registered: 01-18-2008
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 12:25pm
Thanks for your story. I gain strength from hearing from others who were in my situation and overcame. I appreciate your support and am glad to hear you are no longer letting him drain you.