How do I break up with him gently?

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Registered: 12-20-2004
How do I break up with him gently?
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 2:25am
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a month. I want to break up with him because I don't really like him anymore. Sure, he's fun to be around, but I find myself liking other guys more. The thing is, he hasn't done anything to warrant a breakup. On the contrary, he's a great boyfriend. He's really sweet, walks me to class, calls me all the time - the works. I've just found that the only thing going for him is that he's a nice guy. He's about a year and a half younger than me, and I feel like I can't have an intelligent conversation with him - he's always got to make some sort of joke (which is fine, but not all the time...). I don't want to limit my options for someone that I would rather be friends with. I just don't know how to let him know. He really likes me, and I don't want to hurt him at all. I don't want to break up over the phone, but I won't see him until after the new year, and I don't want to draw it out. I'd really appreciate your help! Thanks!
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 2:23pm

Simple, just tell him that you appreciate who he is but you don't really want to be in a relationship right now. From how you've described things, it doesn't sound like you want to be in a relationship ... so, just be honest and tell him that.

A month isn't that long. It's more hurtful to string someone along and delay the inevitable then to just be up front about it.

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Registered: 12-18-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 11:26pm

Starbuck,

Great insight! Couln't have said it better myself.

Mimiche