How do I break up with him gently?
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How do I break up with him gently?
| Mon, 12-20-2004 - 2:25am |
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a month. I want to break up with him because I don't really like him anymore. Sure, he's fun to be around, but I find myself liking other guys more. The thing is, he hasn't done anything to warrant a breakup. On the contrary, he's a great boyfriend. He's really sweet, walks me to class, calls me all the time - the works. I've just found that the only thing going for him is that he's a nice guy. He's about a year and a half younger than me, and I feel like I can't have an intelligent conversation with him - he's always got to make some sort of joke (which is fine, but not all the time...). I don't want to limit my options for someone that I would rather be friends with. I just don't know how to let him know. He really likes me, and I don't want to hurt him at all. I don't want to break up over the phone, but I won't see him until after the new year, and I don't want to draw it out. I'd really appreciate your help! Thanks!

Simple, just tell him that you appreciate who he is but you don't really want to be in a relationship right now. From how you've described things, it doesn't sound like you want to be in a relationship ... so, just be honest and tell him that.
A month isn't that long. It's more hurtful to string someone along and delay the inevitable then to just be up front about it.
Starbuck,
Great insight! Couln't have said it better myself.
Mimiche