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How do i cope?
| Tue, 11-14-2006 - 10:58am |
Basically I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago (we'd been going out for nearly 4 years). I broke up with him as he wasn't making an effort with me, didn't make me feel special and was going out getting drunk. 4 days later he's at a nightclub with his best friend and ends up sleeping with his sister. I was absolutely gutted to say the least. Did i not mean anything to him? He had sex with her for 3 hours straight, during out relationship wasn't i enough for him? What did i do wrong? Is she better than me?
The night before this happened he said that he couldn't see himself with anyone else for a while but what happens the very next day?
To be honest i would like him back, but i know that it's not what my heart needs and what i need anymore. He's seeing this other girl on a casual basis but it still hurts. I am finding myself getting obsessed e.g. checking his phone account to see whether his called her. I feel so screwed up. I know in time it will get better but i hate feeling like this.
Any suggestions, past experiences of this? Please help X
The night before this happened he said that he couldn't see himself with anyone else for a while but what happens the very next day?
To be honest i would like him back, but i know that it's not what my heart needs and what i need anymore. He's seeing this other girl on a casual basis but it still hurts. I am finding myself getting obsessed e.g. checking his phone account to see whether his called her. I feel so screwed up. I know in time it will get better but i hate feeling like this.
Any suggestions, past experiences of this? Please help X

:::Did i not mean anything to him? He had sex with her for 3 hours straight, during out relationship wasn't i enough for him? What did i do wrong? Is she better than me?
Of course you meant something to him. It's not that you weren't enough. You did nothing wrong. She's not better than you. You are NOT less than because of his actions, decisions, words, choices, etc. Sex makes people feel good, even if it's temporary. Even if it's just an escape from his own grief and/or used sex to block feelings of you, or even to prove to himself that he's 'still got it' with women.
First, stop checking his voice mail. It will only continue to bring you pain and it will not help you move forward.
Start journal writing, vent on paper. Read some good books. Make a list of things you enjoy and start doing them.
Carrie