how do i deal with this?

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Registered: 02-22-2007
how do i deal with this?
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:32pm
Well, I went the whole weekend living out of a suitcase staying at my friend's house while she was out of town. I told him I would stay there for a month until I can figure if I want to stay or not. (Knowing I wasn't going to). My friend told me I can stay there for a month to get all my ducks in a row, you know, get an apartment, move, keep my space etc. She wants to charge me. And that's ok, because she lives on her own and needs extra help if someone is staying there. Well, I also have a lease agreement in the house I was living with my boyfriend. So of course, I am financially obligated to continue paying rent at the house where I signed a lease. I cannot afford to stay at my friends and pay rent where I was living and still save up to get my own apartment. I'm left with the option of moving back home until I can find an apartment on my own. Which is where he resides. How do I go about doing this? He has no where to go, and I couldn't even imagine the thought of staying at the house by myself, where all his stuff and the stuff we had together is. I know it is going to be uncomfortable staying in that house with him, so is there anyone that can offer me advice on how to cope with living in the man for the next month or so in which we are ending our relationship?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 5:32pm

Hi cellophanegirl801 and welcome to the board,


I'm not sure there is an easy way to do what you want to do.... but here's a few ideas - stay clear of him and the house as much as you can, go to friends, go for a walk, stay in the library until it closes, get a second job.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 11:43am
thank you for the suggestion. he agreed last night that he would start looking into finding a room mate. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh. this hurts so bad. i can't even stand it.