How do I get through this?
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How do I get through this?
| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:18am |
I am so upset, not sure I will get through this. After 11 years of being together and engaged, my fiance called everything off. This was three months after trying to work on things and being very hopeful. One minute he was saying I love you, I miss you, etc...the next, this needs to end, I can't go on. That was it. I am devastated. Completely devastated. Not only did he break up, but he then said that he was over the relationship, content with his decision. He said he actually felt good, he didn't have to worry or think about the relationship any longer. No more stress or frustration. I guess he was relieved. In addition to all of this, he is now talking to some girl on the phone, and will be dating soon. I am SO confused! He went from missing and loving me to being COMPLETELY over everything. Not sure if it's a front or not, but it still hurts. How do I get over this? Honestly, it's been four weeks and I don't see any changes. I hurt so bad. I have never felt this way before. I hold onto hope. Maybe oneday.... although I know it's highly unlikely. How do you get over someone that you still love and believe could have been worked out? Thank you.

lakerfan0202...
Pianoguy doesn't think there's a "quick fix" for any break-up---because the time frame for healing varies from person-to-person.
I assume you are still in contact with him if you know he is talking to some girl on the phone and getting ready to date again. The biggest step you can take in healing is to cut off all contact with him. Keeping in contact with him will just prolong your pain and keep you from healing. Trust all the advice about it that you see on this board - from people who have suffered through the same thing. I did it all wrong the first time and I never healed! This time I am doing so much better because I am not talking to him. It is hard at first, because I'm sure you can't even imagine not talking to him after he has been a part of your life for so long. Eventually it will start to get better, if you take the steps to move on with your life.
Good luck.