How do I heal when I see him everyday?

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Registered: 10-26-2006
How do I heal when I see him everyday?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 6:18pm
I just posted my story yesterday, under the title "is it possible to stay friends after?". Things have drastically evolved since then, and now not only to I NOT want to try to keep a friendship, I also don't EVER want to see him again. I was dumped two days ago, by phone, and his excuse was "we are too different". That is really lame and pathetic for an excuse. I arrived back on campus today to hear the exact same story,and how he was so sorry it didn't work out, and all evening when we were with friends he pretended that nothing had ever happened between us, as if we were back to the pre-dating days. That hurt. I left.
This evening I then find out that he actually dumped me for another girl. I thought he wasn't the type of guy to do that. Here's the chronology: I leave the university around 8pm sunday night to go to my company placement 4 hours away. He says he'll miss me, kisses me and walks me to the car. 11pm he is hooked up with someone else, and hides this relationship from all our mutual friends and my friends to avoid looking bad. Luckily a friend got wind of this and told me this evening. Wednesday night he calls me up to say it's over, we're too different and I don't want to hurt you even more by breaking up in a few weeks. He said that he really hated to hurt me like that.
And now this evening at a campus party he purposfully made out with his girlfriend in front of me, and looked straight at me while doing so. He made sure to catch my attention when he was taking her to his room. Unfortunatly I noticed. I have never been so angry at someone before.
The point is, I NEVER want to see or talk to him ever again. I leave again sunday night, so i only have to live through the weekend. But once my company placement is over in two weeks,I will have classes with him everyday, and we have the same circle of friends. Two weeks without seeing him is not enough time to heal. How can I continue to heal while having to see him everyday? I want to be strong and get over this. I don't want to have to put up with his crap until June!
Camille
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Registered: 02-28-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 6:53pm

what a jerkk he is......gosh!!! anyways dear date some other guy to make him jealous too...show him that its not end of the world. or make agreement with that guy that you guys are just pretending...let see what this psycho exbf of yours will react...this ex of yours making me sick in stomach....what a ?????

anyways you really dnt deserved him.....and to be honest the way you act with him is so professional...thats good you didnt just walk beside him and start kicking him....GOOD TO GO GIRL!!! GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:29pm

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that he is behaving like such a jerk! That's really immature and uncalled for.

You need to do what you can to minimize your contact with him. I wouldn't pointedly ignore him (don't give him the satisfaction of stooping to his level of immaturity), but you don't have to talk to him either. Just acknowledge his presence with a nod and keep moving. And for the time being, avoid gatherings other than class where he is likely to be. I'm sure some of your friends will support you and hang out with you without the whole gang being there (I would bet they are as disgusted as you are).

Sheri