How do I quiet my head?!?!?!?!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
How do I quiet my head?!?!?!?!
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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 2:38pm

Hi All,

I am processing a end of a romance with someone I cared about. I am sure it is nothing compared to what any of you endured since it was only a short time I spent with him. But, none-the-less, I am hurting.

I just want to know how the flip do I stop these thoughts running through my head?!?!?! Like making up scenarios of him getting with someone else, or starting to fantasize that maybe he'll come back...etc. I just want my brain to STOP thinking of this stuff. I think that I could be okay if these fleeting thoughts would just stop.

Any suggestions???

Thanks,
Pers

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 4:00pm

I know all too well what you're talking about ;-). But there is a way to fix it, thankfully, if you are willing to put some effort in. I'll bump up the post on thought-stopping that explains the technique.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 4:30pm

I surely will put a ton of effort into it. I so want to be done feeling this way.

Thanks so much for bumping this up.

Pers :)

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 4:52pm

Hi,

I did try the technique and it does work to a large extent but I found it hard to go through the indexing part of the exercise as it seems to require way too much effort and I really couldn't come up with much anyways. So I was left with a big challenge in controlling myself.

So another personal trick for me was to specifically select some mind involving activity. For me it's reading and reading lots and lots. Everytime I would start to think, I would pick up something to read as you can't think when you read a story or something. You could try some such activity (even TV) when you feel a think-fest coming on. It prevents you getting really into it.

Another of my favorites these days is sort of like the first one of the thought-stopping. It's basically called procrastination. I tell myself: yes I want to examine this in my head and I will do it in an hour or when I see my friend, I will talk to her about this. By the time that point arrives, the thought is not so overwhelming anymore.

Hope these helps too.
Ash

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 4:37am
Following the previous posts, I also want to add on the benefit of working out. If you already work out then i guess you can disregard this however its helped me a lot lately. Primarily b/c I noticed I'd think about my ex a lot before falling asleep and now that i've started working out, I get so tired I don't even want to think, I just want to rest. Hope that helps.