How do I stop the pain of a broken heart
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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 12:31pm |
Hi Everyone, I am new to this board this this is my frist time posting. I am in need of some advice, my hearth is broken and I am absolutely devastated. He is the father of my child and the man I have loved for 4 yrs. The relationship was a diaster from the insecption, I should have left along time ago but I stayed and kept on staying until he finally left for the woman whom he apparently loved all along but was too dishonest to tell me the truth. I feel so foolish here I am a smart woman whom is about to start law school in the fall... wonderful, independent woman, has my home and still he left. How could he not love me, what's wrong with me. I have supported him through so much. I feel so depress waking up is a struggle, I feel so horrible inside. I am trying to keep busy, and most of all focus on my son who is only 11 mths old. Its a great struggle, I keep waiting for the phone to ring and him to say he is sorry like he always does, can anyone tell me how do I stop the pain, will I feel better, how can I move on when I feel like there is this big hole in my hearth. I need advice.
Thank You
Melissa

But why are you doubting yourself? Sounds to me like you are an achiever and are well on your way to become even better. If you suspect he loves someone else, do yo still want him to be with you instead? I know it hurts, but I think that with a little time you will realize that you are so much better than what he deserves. You have a beautiful baby that can fill your time and make you happy, why not take advantage of that? It will not be long before someone else steps into your life and fills every moment with joy.
Someone who will love you and only you. You have to think that and believe it, I do!
Welcome to the board Melissa.
You are not foolish. You were in love.
Thanks Anaisa,
I have to believe that life will get better and I am a tough person who have fought so hard to acheive success and betterment in my life. Everyone around me keeps telling me that it i will get better. An of course I do not want him to be with me if he is in love with someone else. I just have to find the srtenthg to pull myself up from this horrible depression I feel inside right now. Another thing that keeps bothering me is that how can he say he is in love with his son so much and yet he chooses to live apart from him all because he wants to be with his woman. I guess I have to take it one day at a time. My son is my strenght right now, he keeps me going.
Melissa
i'm really sorry to hear about the pain you're going through. i wish i could offer you so advice or help but i'm going through a break-up from my current (oops...guess ex) boyfriend. dont be scared of being alone. i dont mean to sounds rude or anything but it sounds like you were staying in the relationship all for the wrong reasons. you will find someone else out there who is perfect for you! I am a single mom and have been for about 7 months (i dated a guy for a few months but we just broke up). but my sons father and i only were together for like a year & 1/2 but anyway i stayed with him way too long and him too just because i had his son and was too scared to be alone. but let me tell you it has been worth it! It was so nice just focusing on my son and my life and actually being happy again...
*now this is the important thing. stay single for a long time! just take time for you and your son and enjoy being single. i really really wish i wouldn't have rushed back into a relationship because i'll tell you its actually been more painful breaking up with this new guy than my son's father. i dont know why
well good luck and i hope you start feeling better. breaking up is the wors pain ever and i'm sorry you're going through it and just remember to be there for your son. its hard to be a mother and go threw this but you'll make it and you'll be so happy
Thanks For all your advise, and I know this will get better just have to take it one day at a time. I truly believes breaking up is very hard and very painful but I'm hoping that in the end it all works out.
Melissa
Hi cl-itwinflame ,
I know I should not consider myself to be foolish, however when I look back at how I stayed so long in such an horrible relationship I do feel folish. Because I cannot believe that I was so Blinded in love that I could not have seen that this man was just playing me along the way. I know people say that you should not live in regret or hurt over the past, but I wish that I could have change so many stupid choices that I made. I'm thinking how he is so aggrogant and selfish he should have consider the fact that i'm the mother of his child and I least I deserved the respect and honesty.
Melissa
Hi again, I think it's normal to feel foolish. Doesn't mean you ARE foolish. And you did learn something, well a lot, right?