How do you know?

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How do you know?
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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 2:29pm

Like a lot of you, I have been doing a lot of self-examination lately about my relationship that just ended, and how I can avoid the same things with future relationships.


 

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In reply to: mdrsfr
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 2:40pm

Hon, if you had only dated for a year, then maybe the "not wanting to rush into things" excuse would be valid, but FIVE YEARS???

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In reply to: mdrsfr
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 2:51pm

So why would he want to spend 5 years with someone he knew he couldn't see a future with? Is this a classic case of, if it's not broke, don't fix it?


I'm not reading that book, but i just started, men who can't love. I'm not that very far into it, but they seem to focus on guys who come on very strong to begin with and then pull way, way back, whereas with my ex things kept moving forward, but very, very slowly. We never lived together because, well he SAID because his family wouldn't look very favorably on it.

 

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In reply to: mdrsfr
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 3:06pm

Why?

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In reply to: mdrsfr
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 3:11pm

The resut is the same, but I'm just trying to avoid it in the future. I think for me as well the relationship was "too good to leave, to bad to stay."

 

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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 3:21pm

Gotcha.