How do you know when it's time

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Registered: 04-29-2010
How do you know when it's time
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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 7:55pm

How do you know when it's time to start looking for a new relationship? I broke up with my bf of 2.5 years around the 1st of June. I've been trying to talk to some guys and have met a few but nothing is clicking so far. I'm wondering if I'm just not ready for this. I hate to waste time, I'm 53 and sure not getting any younger. Talking to these guys has helped me heal, or at least taken my mind off of it. But when I meet them I just don't feel anything positive or negative--I'm just kind of neutral. Maybe I just haven't met the right one?

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 11:17pm

It's different for everyone. How long the couple was together is a big factor. I say at least a couple of months, then it's time to get out with friends and

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Registered: 04-29-2010
Sat, 12-18-2010 - 12:53am

Thanks for your reply. I was feeling quite a bit better and looking forward to the holidays and then I found out last weekend my exbf has started seeing someone. I even got to see the pics on facebook thanks to one of my picture taking friends. That has stung a lot harder than I thought it would. It took me a long time getting him to leave me alone. I finally had to block him off my phone because he would send me texts late at night that said "miss me yet" and other things like that. Now I have the urge to start doing that to him! I won't, but it's tempting. I wonder is he is really over me and moving on--it would appear that he is. And I think what really bothers me is that nagging fear that I won't ever find anyone and now he has someone. I've just been rather frustrated with men lately and this is just another big ole slap in the face. Now I'm in this huge funk and Christmas is right around the corner. I keep expecting to run into them at any time. He doesn't live in my town but his family does and this new girl does so now he will be here every weekend. Isn't that just lovely? "Sigh"