How do you know whether to call : (

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Registered: 07-21-2004
How do you know whether to call : (
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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 12:08pm

Hi all - I'm really going crazy...it's been 10 days with no contact. He's usually the one to get in touch with me after our break-ups (there have been about 4 in the last year!) We're long distance so can't see each other. He was supposed to come down to visit me for Mem. day and last time we spoke (when we were breaking up) he asked if I still wanted him to come down. I told him that depended...if it was the last time we were going to see each other I thought it would be too hard. Now I'm wondering if that was harsh of me and I should reconsider. I hurt so bad I can hardly stand it, can't seem to get my work done. I know you all understand this..but how do you know when it's ok to pick up the phone and call him????

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 1:23pm
I'm sorry you are going thru this, It's really tough to break up and let go. But thats really where you are conflicted. Should you hang on and go back and forth hoping things will change THIS time, or let go because it's not going to get better. Whose doing the breaking up? If you told him "not to come if this is the end", and he's decided not to come, then there you go, it's over. You have let him decide the relationship and it's terms and you are hanging on what to do. You could decide for yourself that youve had enough and finalize the relationship by actually breaking up, but if thats not what you want than you two need to talk. Call him and discuss it, so you'll know where his heart is. He should be up front with you so you know where you stand
Hugs to you
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 2:29pm

It depends on a lot of factors. In your situation, I'd need to know, who did the breaking up, and why? Why have you broken up so many times? What are you hoping to accomplish by calling him?

Sheri