How do you let go?

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Registered: 04-16-2003
How do you let go?
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 5:41pm

It's been a month since we broke up and two weeks since we have spoken. We dated for 10 years and I am completely devestated. I find myself not wanting to let go. I keep thinking, maybe he will miss me and change his mind. Or, maybe he will start dating and realize what we had and come back. I keep holding onto hope. After a month, I didn't think I would still be in denial and hoping for a reunion.

How do I let go? I feel like until I let go, I will remain stuck, while he is moving on with his life.

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Registered: 06-10-2005
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 6:33pm

it's important to just take it one day at a time. try spending alot of time with friends or family - or at least talking to them. try to stay active and healthy and in time things should get better for you. a month isn't very long when you think about how long you were together, so it's ok that you feel that way.

good luck and i hope you feel better soon!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 6:33pm

That must be tough--10 years is a LONG time!

Have you had a chance to read the post on thought-stopping, below? The index card suggestion, in particular, would probably be of help to you.

It takes 3 things to get over someone: time, no contact and acceptance that it's over and that the two of you aren't right for each other. I would work on training yourself to substitute something like, "it's over, I need to accept that and move on" every time the "maybe" thoughts pop into your head. It takes a while, but if you do that faithfully for a couple days, you will see improvement.

Other than that, though, unfortunately it's just going to take TIME.

Sheri