How far to move away?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
How far to move away?
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Thu, 12-28-2006 - 9:50pm

I am starting to come to grips with the fact that it's truly over, though it kills me incredibly. I went to look at more apartments after work and pretty much cried as I drove. When we are together, we completely ignore one another. I told him today that I knew he didn't want to talk but that I was ready when he was, meaning we at least need to hash out me moving out, dissolving our joint accounts, etc. He didn't say anything and was cold.

So, for those of you who had to move out, or even had a SO who had to move out, how far away should I move? I really like the neighborhood we're in now, but he was here first. I saw a few apartments that were about a mile away or even less and I am wondering if this will just cause problems down the road. Maybe I am clinging to him through the thought of living nearby. The only other places are going to be a hefty commute. I would appreciate any advice. Maybe it would be best for me to get away from the neighborhood, where I would pass his workplace, our favorite restaurants, the grocery store he goes to, etc. all the time. But I hate being stuck in traffic all day.

So far it's not getting any easier, but I must try to have some faith that this will pass and I will get on with my life. I am also sad for him. It would be nice if he could learn how to treat a woman so that he is not alone his whole life. I think he's used to women who were his personal punching bags, and I guess I was, too, to a degree.

Thanks for letting me vent again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 10:22pm
Live where you feel comfortable. I don't blame you for not wanting a long commute. You have to make the best decision for you. If you like the neighborhood, stay.


Carrie