How to handle him moving on

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Registered: 06-05-2007
How to handle him moving on
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 11:32am


I don't know how soon he will move on - but I know that he's going to . . . we were together 8 yrs, broke up last summer and he just recently told me he's not sure he loves me enough to try. . .

We live in the same house together - and it will be up for sale next week - but how do I handle that insane feeling that comes over me when his phone rings or he leaves the house or he doesn't come home.

I know that if I didn't have it in my face it wouldn't be this bad but I have no where to go until the house is sold.

I'm trying to move on with my life too and I'm sure that will be hard for him but he seems to contain it better. I want to be done w/the emotional breakdowns of it so any advice on how to stay strong would be greatly appreciated. . .

Thanks.

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 1:06pm

I understand how you are feeling. My boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up two months ago. We lived in a rental thankfully so I was able to move into my own apartment but it was a good month before I was able to. So we co-existed and it was tough and painful. He was not completely honest with me about breaking up...and I too had questions and anxiety about when his phone rang and who he was talking to. Less than a month after I moved into my apartment he bought a house in another town and started dating his co-worker. I was crushed, angry, and wanted him back...and it was painfully obvious...it wasn't gonna happen.

The only thing I can tell you is hang in there. If you are like me, money is an issue so going out and renting a place as well as paying a mortgage is impossible. Do your best to stay busy...I know it sounds like the same old bs advice, but it's the best I can give. Go work out, go have dinner with a friend...he's doing it so why can't you? I wish you the best of luck and understand how you feel.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 1:41pm

Hi cathsgsr,


Staying strong sometimes requires that we talk back to the negative thoughts and STAY IN THE MOMENT.