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| Fri, 06-29-2007 - 12:30pm |
...the pit in your stomach goes away???
This weekend will make one month since I broke up with him and 10 days since we last spoke and yet i still walk aroundmost days with a knot in my stomach and he's still my first thoughts when I wake in the morning 'why did this happen?', 'why doesn't he feel the same?', 'why did he lose interest?'
I'm not exactly crying anymore since I got myself out of a situation that was hurting me but still the nervousness and stomach-knotting still remain.

Took me about 1.5 months for the pit-in-your-stomach feeling to completely go away. BUT, I'd only start counting from ten days ago for you since you only just stopped talking to him recently. It has to be from the last point of contact, not from the breakup date itself.
Realize now that every single time to you talk to him for the next few months, you'll have the same feeling all over again from the beginning, it's not a weaning process like some people think. It needs to be cold turkey, as much as it hurts. After a solid month of no talking, no contact, the pit starts to really go down, and at about 2-3 months depending on the individual situation, it'll be a very sporadic thing only, if at all. After the first month of solid nothing, do whatever you want, but you need to get over that first hump, and it's the toughest.
If you keep concentrating on why this and why that, it'll take longer. If you want more constructive questions, ask yourself, "What was my part in this? What can I do better next time? How can I make my life reflect the real me and the life I want to have?" THOSE are the ones you need to be asking, because you can actually find answers to those yourself.
Best, it sux, I know.