How long until im over him?
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How long until im over him?
| Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:56pm |
Hi im new here. im 19 and split up with my boyfriend of four years about four months ago. He hadnt treated me well for the last 3 years. There was constant cheating and lies. He left me for another girl and we have a baby together. He only comes to see her every month or so. I no im better off out of it, but i cant seem to move on. i think about him all the time and i no if he wanted to come back i would take him back. Its like he has some kind of hold over me and it doesn't seem to matter what he does i cant stay angry at him. He has really hurt me yet im still waiting to see if he will come back. I have some really good friends and go out as often as i can while trying to be a single mum. i just want to get to the stage where i can say, ok i love him but it didn't work and now its time to move on. But it doesn't seem to be happening. Any advice appreciated.

do you have family nearby that will help you get through this? You said you weprre going out with friends and that is good too....just try to stay busy and live your life and pretty soon you will notice missing him less and less but it is a long process and you were with him for a few years.
try to remember how young you are and that you have your whole life ahead of you...and when you are more grown up he is probably not the kind of person you would want to share your life with anyway.
concentrate on your child and make sure you are preparing yourself for getting a good job...school or technical training would be good and a way to meet new people...
good luck to you and i will remember you in my prayers...god bless
and know that many are going thru the same thing just putting one foot in front of the other...taking it one day at a time...
hugs