How to move on?

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Registered: 01-27-2004
How to move on?
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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 5:40pm
Last week was the longest week I have ever had. I don't know how to be a friend to him with his new girlfriend. It's been a long time since I have felt like this. The last time I felt this loss was many many years back and I have avoided a relationship since then because it hurt so much when it ended. It took me a long time to get over it--longer than it should. This guy is the first guy I have allowed my heart to fall for since my very last relationship. Right now I am just trying to understand these emotions I am feeling. I am not quite sure what these are. I am angry and sad and the same time. I am starting to think about 'what if's'. I can't stop myself from thinking of him and his new girlfriend. How she could possibly be the one he marries. I was truly happy for him when he first told me about her but as time has passed I can't be happy for him anymore and I am just more sad about losing him altogether and about the what if's. I can't concentrate on work. I want so much to call him and try to be a friend but I don't because I know it will hurt too much to hear him talk about her. I feel stuck. My biggest mistake was being friends with him after we dated. I realized now that it doesn't work. I am so angry at myself for hanging on to false hopes. I am so afraid of him calling me. How can one move on easier?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2003
In reply to: jens128
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 8:19pm

Welcome-


First off, don't be so hard on yourself! When a relationship ends, it's very hard to accept it's over ... and we often find ourselves hoping our ex will change their mind. I think that's why so many people try to remain friends.


It really can't work

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"You get what you settle for"...