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| Thu, 11-04-2004 - 4:35pm |
Hello everyone. I have a question. How long does a man have to be with a woman before he realizes if she is the on or not? I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. He is 32 and I am 27. Everytime I bring up anything about the future he gets really defensive. He tells me to quit worrying about the future and a ring. He says that something will happen someday. That it will happen when the time is right. He never wants to talk about it. He still lives at home also. Am I just wasting my time with this guy or should I stick it out? Thanks for your help.

Give him a gentle ultimatum and act on it. DO NOT go back on your ultimatum or he won't take you serious about it. If he truly loves you he won;t let you get away , if he still does not want to marry you .....LEAVE!
Get the book "HE JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU".................and sweetie.....he is just not that into you! Stop making excuses for his bad behavior!
Good Luck and God Bless!
I'm sorry. I really don't mean to make light of your situation. It's very difficult to get someone to consider their future if they have all they need at present.
Good luck.
All relationships are different and there are people that spend years together before they finally get on the same page to marriage due to timing and careers etc etc but marriage is still acknowledged to some degree, however, I do NOT think this is the case with you. It sounds like he never plans on being on the same page and I would cut your losses and move on. The fact that he lives at home (and it doesn't sound like a temporary situation) is also an indicator that he just doesn't seem to have ANY goals or thoughts of even his own future, much less one with another person. He doesn't seem to be able to get his act together and I guarantee you that probably will not change.
Some people just drift through life day to day with no ambition or drive to do anything, it sounds harsh but they just simply do. I dated a guy for a year and realized he was one of those people, he was 32 as well. There is nothing you can do to change someone.
Listen to him when he says that he doesn't want to talk about marriage, he is promising nothing and that is what you will be getting by continuing the relationship...