how much of your breakup was your fault?

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Registered: 08-22-2003
how much of your breakup was your fault?
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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 7:17pm

so i was thinking about my breakup (2 months now and still talk to my ex) and just wondering how much of my breakup was my fault?


1 - I broke things off once i heard he wanted to be single

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 1:43am

Hi Sandradee,

You're right. I have to see things for what it is instead of being so hard on myself. I have to have faith to keep moving on and to take what I have learned from this relationship and grow as a person. It's just so hard when you are in the middle of it and can't see clearly until the dust settles and only lord knows how long that will be.

And someone told me the other day "just because he is a good person and a gentleman does not mean he is a good boyfriend". Then I realized that being a good person is part of being a good boyfriend but it takes more than that...it takes strength, the ability to hang in during hard times, and a big heart to forgive the other person's mistake and the courage to speak up that are also required.

Thanks for the insight.

=)
Sarah

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