How to pass the time after break up?

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Registered: 07-08-2003
How to pass the time after break up?
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 5:53pm
I've been trying to keep busy since the break up. Its been almost two months since the break up. But the hardest part has been the past two weeks since I havent talked to him or seen him. I have a dog so I've been trying to take her for lots of walks but that just makes me think more. I'm going to start going to the dog park more so I can be around other people. I have a wonderful friend who comes over almost every night to talk since she is going through a divorce she understand alot, and were both there for each other. Does anyone have any good tips on staying busy?
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Registered: 07-26-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 7:23pm
I'm just about at two months also, after finding my boyfriend of two years alone in his apartment with another woman lying on top of him! "Oh, she's just a friend, no big deal." Yeah, right. He obliterated my heart and my trust in the whole human race. I loved him so much. He gave every indication he loved me... ANYWAY...although I still have bad days, they are fewer and farther between. I've had good luck enjoying the many free activities offered in my city. Museums, musical performances, the zoo, libraries, hiking, even $5 tango lessons! Check out your local newspaper...there's usually a section on entertainment and a lot of it is free or cheap. I've been trying new healthier recipes and taking online classes (there is an online class for EVERYTHING under the sun...a lot of those are free or cheap too). What about hobbies? I built a gorgeous water fountain out of colored glass...the sound of the bubbling and trickling not only comforts me and puts me to sleep at night, I am reminded that I can do anything I put my mind to WITHOUT A MAN IN MY LIFE! So can you...good luck!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:53pm
I have found that going to the movies (as opposed to renting one) really helps. You can't call or email while you're there so even if you're tempted to contact him, you can't.

I have been known to go to 2 or 3 movies in a row on a weekend day if necessary ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 12:33am
I think re-decorating your place is always a great option, especially if the ex spent a lot of time there then a change of scenery may be in order. I am getting a new place in the near future and have been keeping myself busy with planning that.

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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 11:31am
The movies is a really hard thing for me to go to. It may sound stupid but that was one thing me and my ex loved to do. I want to cry just thinking about it. I want to be able to still do the things I like but its too many memories I cant handle it. I love him so much and I feel like my world is not as good without him. Sorry I'm just rambling.

Im glad cause I think in January me and a girlfriend of mine are going to get a place together. Hopefully a townhome or something so we can get out of apartments. I think a new place with be a good fresh start without memories of him being there. Thanks everyone!

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Registered: 09-04-2004
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 3:42pm
I agree about the home remodeling thing. I just threw out some furniture that we had when he lived with me and i am getting new stuff and i plan to paint the walls any damn color i like.....i also am not to keen on going out to clubs because i am not ready to look for a new relationship yet but i am doing more things with my kids (17 and 14), i spent a lot more time with my ex than i probably did them.. i also go to college one night a week and that helps..it's the weekends that are the longest but i just read for school and hang out with my children..don't have any pets and since my ex is gone one less mouth to feed is good enough for me
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 4:43pm
I was going to start back to school this week but I decided I was not emotionally ready for that. I'm hoping by January I should have my head on straight and my emotions controlled. I started school and after 6 months I dropped out to help my ex with a home business that went bad. That was a stupid mistake!! I've been working on the weekends when I can. I have a home show I'm working at all weekend (long hours) and I really dont want to but its better than being at home depressed and alone.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 12:51pm
Welcome to the board. I'm glad to hear that you have a friend that knows what you're feeling and that you help one another. As for passing time...you can read, take up a new hobby, join a gym or anything to keep you occupied. The ideas are endless....just make sure you do something fun that makes you feel good about you and that you'd want to stick to. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 12:00pm
i realized that now i can rent all the movies that i wanted to see but didn't because he didn't like them.. it is amazing that after a breakup you realize all the things you gave up for LOVE