how to stop torturing myself...
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how to stop torturing myself...
| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:14pm |
Would you please tell me how to stop myself from checking ex's facebook and his newly set dating profile...
My heart is aching so much!!!!!

Welcome to the board gal_luckybamboo,
Deleting him is a good start.
It's about self-control.... you gotta be disciplined, find something else to do, write an UNSENT letter to him about how you feel about facebook, etc. burn it.
As a past cyber stalker, I know how hard this is. For the three months post-breakup I stalked. I read his local paper online (he is in it a lot for work); I checked the website for a professionals group he is in that has details on meetings and photos of events; I read his company's website that shows what things he'd be doing/attending. I did it a lot, several times a day and then I just got sick of it. Month four post-breakup I've stopped it all. My ex and I are not in touch. It was a sad, amicable break, but it has been cold turkey, hence my desire to find out anything I could about him. But, he's moving on cleanly without looking back, kind of like I don't exist. I've tried to do the same and stopped checking to see what he was doing any way I could.
You may need to just do it a ton and then realize it will change nothing and you're better off not knowing what is going on.
It's hard -- it's a soft addiction. Try it out for two days, restrain for two days, and then see how you feel.