How would you handle this situation?

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Registered: 01-15-2009
How would you handle this situation?
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Sun, 07-17-2011 - 6:24pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. In the beginning he would want to hang out constantly . About a month ago He seems distant I talked to him about it and he says maybe we were spending to much time together, but everything is fine and he wants to make things work. Well since then things have been OK but not great. He wouldn't include me in things that he does when he used to and doesn't make the effort I felt in the beginning. We have not hung out all week because he says he has been working. I was hoping we could go on his boat today, but he said he might have to work. So I told him to text me in the morning. He text me that he had to work mostly all day and I said that stinks cus we wouldn't be able to hang out. Two hrs later he text me what I was doing today. I told him gonna go to beach. He never text me back. I had a weird feeling so I went to where he parks his car when he goes on the boat and his car was there. So he went on the boat without asking me to go or telling me about it at all. I text him and called him after that and he hasn't responded. I just feel like now how long has he been lying to me. I feel like this is the end of our relationship because why would he not want me to be there? Also He is 30 years old, why cant he just talk to me if there is a problem? I'm so confused, and can't believe I have to find out this way. I want to text him telling him its over because he's not gonna answer but I don't know how to go about it. WHat would you do?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 7:00pm

What would I do?

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:39am

I totally agree with TrueBlue!

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:10pm

Unfortunately, a person isn't mature just because they hit 30.

Not only are you dating someone who doesn't really want you around, you're also dating a liar who is afraid to be honest. This is not good boyfriend material - For you or anyone. The person he was in the beginning of the relationship is NOT the reality you have to face now.

It's time to say goodbye. And if you do it over text, that's fine. He's not making time to see you anyway.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 2:43pm

Thank you for sharing your opinions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 4:32pm

He shouldn't be lying to you. Period. It's important for you to look at the bottom line - He's a liar and you don't feel really happy with him. It will make the breakup easier than if you pay too much attention to the details, or think too hard about what he wants or who is right/wrong.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 12:13pm
Sorry for your pain. :( either it's over or he is just a very selfish inconsiderate man. Do you want to be with someone like that? He is giving you a preview of what life will be like with him and I would pick yourself up by the bootstraps and run run RUN! You don't have to settle for this kind of treatment and more importantly, you shouldn't. Give him his walking papers and DO NOT look back.