howww????

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Registered: 07-14-2007
howww????
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Thu, 08-02-2007 - 10:10am

i wake up...first thing i do...RUN TO MY EMAIL..:(

what am i waiting for? an email from my ex saying he changed his mind?? YEAH RIGHT...:( why wont i stop doing this? its been 3 weeks. and a full week of no contact..THERE WILL BE NO MIND CHANGING EMAILS EVER....:( how do i understand that :(????

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Registered: 07-30-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 2:24pm
Hi mstullips,
I know what you mean. I look at my phone every few minutes to see if a call or text has come through. I also check my emails and my myspace. It's been since Sunday and nothing. He is apparently needing space. So I'm left here with NC and not knowing what the hell is going on. It's agonizing and unbearable.
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Registered: 07-27-2006
In reply to: mstullips
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 2:38pm

Been there, done that! Its now 3 months later and I every time I get a pop up notification from yahoo telling me there is a new email, I wonder....

But I also know its not coming. I can say that today, the only reason I would want an email from him is to get the power back. LOL! Yep! He had nothing to say to my response to his email dumping me and I want to be able to do the same! I know--childish, but still...personally empowering in my mind. You will eventually stop checking.

As for text messages, I had to tell all my friends to stop texting for awhile because the sound of message sent my heart through my chest! I hoped it was from HIM! I can proudly say that I have been able to resume my texting without heart ache....

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Registered: 07-30-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 2:49pm

OMG! I am the exact same way. I dated a guy for about 6 weeks last year and when we broke up I was kinda sad. He gave me the opportunity to respond to the most absurd email and whe I did I felt soooo much better and never was sad again.

What I'm dealing with now is much more serious. We have been together 9 months and I'm deeply in love with him. So I know what you mean about the text. Whenever I see one my heart drops and I stare at it and pray before I open it. It's never him and the dissapointment in more than I can bear.

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Registered: 01-21-2005
In reply to: mstullips
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:43pm
Yeah, I'm wondering how to break the habitual and obsessive email checking/text checking/phone checking. Argh. I am reserving the last "no reply" email since I am not responding to his last one so that helps a little with the anger but doesn't keep me from expecting to hear from him constantly.
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Registered: 07-31-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:25am

sometimes you just hope against hope that a miracle will happen..that he will see what a fool he was letting you go and that he still is deeply in love with you.

this is not wrong. we all wish that this could happen..maybe it will..one day..but more often than not..it's just all in our minds.

i know that it's hard to let go...but you just got to really know that he is moving on. and you should too..

>hugs<

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mstullips
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:43am

One thing that has really helped me in the past is to block my ex from emailing me. That way, I'm not looking for emails from him because I know he won't be sending any, by MY choice. It's hard to take that initial step, but it really helps me feel more in control when I do.

Sheri