Hurt & Confused
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| Wed, 05-09-2007 - 7:38am |
Last fall I started dating a very close friend and coworker of mine. Prior to getting involved in a relationship, we spoke openly about what our expectations were and he communicated to me that he had met someone that we both new. I told him that if he was interested in her that he should date her and I would not have a problem with it - as we were just friends at the time. He continued to pursue me heavily, express his undying love for me and reminded me everyday that he was not interested in her. Well, a couple of months go by and I find out that she pays him a visit on a regular basis. Now, I did not hear this directly from him but though mutual friends with both work with. I expressed my concern to him about the situation and told him I did not feel comfortable with it. He still denied that he had any interest in her and that I should have nothing to worry about. As a close friend, whom I have known for many years, I trusted that he would not disrespect me.
I had to go out of town for business and when I returned he was acting rather strange. He avoided me for about a week. When I finally confronted him as to why he was avoiding me and told me that he needed some time and space to think about things between us. I granted his wish and respected his time and space. For about two weeks after he dumped me he would call almost everyday to just chat. I did not show any interest and kept the convesations with him very short. Shortly after that, I was told that he had begun dating "the other women". I am sure that they were dating while he and I were going out. When I confronted him on the issue he confessed that they had been dating but not when we were going out. He stated that she was not his "girlfriend". However, I doubt that is what he is telling her as they have been vacationing together.
I feel like a complete fool. I had trusted someone that I thought was a really close friend. Most of all I am hurt becuase I know the friendship that we had prior to this relationship is now gone (although he still attempts to speak to me). I am not sure why he would behave this way to a friend - if I was a friend at all. My problem now is trying to avoid running into the two of them.
Any feedback to this situation would be helpful....

You know, with the exception of one thing you did, this one's on him.
The one thing: