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| Mon, 03-05-2007 - 1:10am |
I know this is just a message board and i usually dont take anything on these serious,but i thought id seek some suggestions of what mainly other women think of my situation.This is a long post,if anyone feels like reading it
Ok,i recently met a girl through my friends girlfriend.We started of slow but eventually developed deep feelings for each other.First,she has a 17 month old daughter and lives with her duaghters dad.that right there would of normally ran me off in a heartbeat.But the situation was a little different,they broke up technically 5 months before,but still had a lease and tried to work it out for the duaghter.I met him,hung out with her while he was there in his room,he had a girlfriend,i met her.You could tell they had no romantic feelings left for one another.They also had completly different schedules and she worked full time and went to school full time.I was ok with the situation since we were only dating.fast forward 2 weeks and we are all at the bar,she sees her ex,not the father of her child,he tries talking to her,she talks to him over at the bar,i told her im leaving,find a ride home,she runs after me and tells him to go home.
From there I thought things were done with them.So we start dating again,hang out with me and my friend and his gf all the time,talk to each other everyday,text,have frequent sex.She tells me she loves me while having sex a couple of weeks later,i thought it might be too soon,but a couple of days later i told her i loved her too,wich i mean,the feelings got deep.We spent valentines day together,spent the night together,talked all night,had great sex.Her duaghter gets sick the day after,has to be in the hospital for 3 days,i go visit both of them at the hospital,she asked me to,but i wanted to anyway.Everything is good untill last weekend,she told me she is eating with a guy friend she might get a place with just as roomates,since all she has is guy friends,i know alot of girls do,but of course if they got a place,i would of stopped dating her.She told me she was having dinner with him to talk about getting a place,then going home to be with her duaghter,i said ok,ill call after i get off from work.i call around 11:30,someone hangs up.i texted back saying why did u hang up,i get a text back saying,i guess im drunk.I call back,a guy answers the phones starts talking all this sh**.I pretty much ignore it untill he calls back doing it again,i ask him where he is at so he can show his nuts in person.I get a text message from her in the morning saying she is very sorry,that her ex was at the bar they were at and took her phone and was the one texting and calling,said she was just as mad and if she was me she would hate me too.I text back saying i dont hate somone i love,but the sh** last night was it for me.im too old for high school drama(im 25).That i wish we could of ended it in person.I love you and hope the best for you and your duaghter.
She sent another one back saying shes just confused and very sorry.I didnt reply back.Its been 2 days,i havent heard back from her,shes talked to my friend gf,just saying she is mad at the guy that took her phone and is sorry.I know we will run into each other again,im not gonna send anything else,if she loves me like she said she did,she will call or text me,im just wondering if any women have been in the same kind of situation and if they eventually reconnected contact with the guy.i cant say if i would take her back,but i would like some closure.Sorry for the long post.

Hi taurusdrew and welcome to the board.
The others nailed it, she's enjoying all the attention and isn't in a position to be making any kind of decisions at this point.