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Hurting and Pregnant
| Sun, 12-17-2006 - 9:20pm |
Well, my world has officially crumbled beneath my feet, or so it feels that way. I'm a fairly young woman that has just been dumped by my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. But here's where it gets ugly.....I'm 3 months pregnant (very happy) with his child (of course). He says he'll still be there for the baby which is great but, and I know I'm focusing on all the wrong things right now, but who will be there for me? I feel like nobody will want me anymore, young with a child. And I know these are probably horrible feelings to have when I have such obviously bigger things to deal with right now, but I can't stop the hurting. I don't have many friends (well, pretty much none) due to my vigorous work schedule (packing in the overtime for baby's future)so not too many shoulders to lean on without creeping some people out and my very near and dear mother I've chosen to spare from the news for now since she's always been my rock and I'm afraid she's just so tired of my drama that the rock may just crumble.
Does anybody out there have any tips for me to get through the rough nights with those deep pangs that burst me into tears? I can't imagine my constant crying is healthy for the baby. And please someone tell me there is a life after being declared "SINGLE MOM"!!!
Thanx Everyone,
Hurting and Pregnant
Does anybody out there have any tips for me to get through the rough nights with those deep pangs that burst me into tears? I can't imagine my constant crying is healthy for the baby. And please someone tell me there is a life after being declared "SINGLE MOM"!!!
Thanx Everyone,
Hurting and Pregnant

So sorry to hear you're hurting!
I have two best friends who are/were single moms. Both are now in loving relationships, one is married and has had a second child with the guy, the other has a guy who does everything for her. I have a third friend who just had a baby last week who is single and moved back home to be with her mom. She is being well-supported by her family in every way. I just sent her a ton of baby-girl clothes!
I've been debating single mom-ming myself (I'm 37). I kinda wish I was in your situation in a way.
If your mom is a loving person, find a way to tell her soon. You'll sure need her. My mom told me once she'd support me being a single mom which was surprising b/c she's very conservative and religious. But what mom's don't love grandkids!!
I'm sorry I can't help with first-hand knowledge, but I've seen some great girls like yourself turn out just fine. It's definitely not been easy for them, but they are sexy, fun, and happy. And my role models.
Good luck and big hugs.
Would you consider counseling at this time? It will give you a safe place to vent and help you with your emotions. You can get a referral from your doctor.
A book for you to consider:
The Courage to be a Single Mother by Sheila Ellison
Journal writing can help too. I think you are right about the emotional stress not being good for the baby.
Carrie