huzzah!!!!

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Registered: 02-01-2005
huzzah!!!!
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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 5:41pm

I just have to say that I may just have hit a milestone. So I've been back in touch with the ex as "friends on my terms" for...a little over a week now. It's been about 2 months since we broke up and we've limited contact via IM only (in the last week) and, actually, it has been pretty normal ( b/c I've decided that there's no reason for things to be "weird"). Anyway, the reason why I'm writing is b/c today we were discussing jobs, my future finding a full time one and how broke I am when he mentioned something about having to "take me out to dinner sometime soon to get me a decent meal." Now, a month ago I would have been all over it (maybe) thinking about how much I really wanted to see him and be with him blah blah blah. But today, when he said that, the reaction in my head was "um, no. not interested, mr. let's see if we can get back into eeyore's pants. I don't mess around with my friends." Not that he would "try" anything, but it's well established that he still "wants" me--which just makes me very uncomfortable as that pushes WAY beyond my "friend" boundaries.

AHH! OMG!! While, yes, a lot of "those" feelings are still there and I am still sad over the loss of him as my bf from time to time, and I would definitely still be tempted, my feelings towards this guy are definitely shifting from "Please, God, anything to be with him again" to "Eeewww. I love you, but you're my friend, not my boyfriend. And, as my friend, no." That's HUGE!! I never, ever thought that would even BEGIN to happen!!! That my boundaries would begin to reform so firmly, so quickly. Hooray!




Edited 3/19/2005 6:54 pm ET ET by eeyore_2436
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Registered: 03-07-2005
In reply to: eeyore_2436
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 7:10pm
Good for you. I really hope it continues to work for you.