I am afraid to lose friends w/ breakup

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Registered: 05-11-2006
I am afraid to lose friends w/ breakup
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Sun, 07-08-2007 - 5:57pm

My H and I told the kids yesterday that we are spitting up. That was so hard. And of course in that - now friends will be told - some of our mutual friends have known that we have been on the brink of break up for about a year.

There are a couple of them that I feel very attached to. I am the one who asked for the separation for many reason - primarily because I have come to realize that I am not in love or happily married and I don't want to live that life anymore. Those friends (one in particular) knows very well that i feel this way. He and I have talked a lot. I have almost felt or more honestly did feelt that I was in love with him and maybe I am, but that is not on the top of my mind right now. It is the kids and losing these friends. They are inviting my H down to their house, out to their campground, calling him to see how he is. and I get a once in a while call. It really hurts a lot!!!!!!!!!!! I hate the idea of losing them. I am hoping that because I asked for the separation that they feel that he needs the extra support and that in a couple of months they will agian want to spend time with me again too.

there is a lot more to my thoughts, but my buzzer went off downstairs for dinner.

does anyone have a similar experience or advice or thoughts?

thanks
S

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 5:42pm

Hi suzi_q2006,


Losing friends in a divorce/separation is pretty normal.