I am freakin out here

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Registered: 09-27-2004
I am freakin out here
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:01pm

Hey,

Well, i have been in a relationship with this guy for a year and a half now. I broke up with him in January bc he hadnt said he loved me yet, but when i broke it off he started crying, and he is the type that never cries or shows emotion. He said, he knows he has feelings for me, he just isnt ready to say it yet, and to please give him more time. So, reluctantly, i said yes. I love him so much, so i figured what's a few more months of patience, maybe he will actually come around.

Well, we are in a really tough time again. He is in the tax season as an accountant, working 60+ hours a week. We are fighting about the fact that he is so exhausted he doesnt feel like having conversations after he gets off work. I try to understand, but it is hard because in my opinion you can't just abandon a relationship bc you are exhausted. I am a law student and get exhausted too, but i never do this to him. Anyway, i got mad at him on monday for this, and as a result, the last few days he has ignored my calls. So finally, turning into the girl psycho that no girls want to admit they turn into, i texted him until he would actually talk to me and tell me what was going on. He told me he was still mad about me not understanding how tired he is. I just feel like his ignoring my calls was the most immature thing he could do.

Anyway, this sounds so stupid as i am writing it, but i feel like now is the time to just put an end to it. I love him with all my heart, he is my best friend, but i feel like i am getting nothing but heartache out of this. I feel like he has been indifferent towards me for the last month, after he asked me to give him more time to work it out.

What do you think i should do? I am worried bc i have never been heartbroken and i have a lot going on for me until July, finals, then the bar exam, and i don't want to fail it. Should i say goodbye now, giving me 2 months before studying for the bar to get over it, or do i just stay in a crappy relationship until after the bar. Should i break up with him or should i just give him space and let him come to me. This sucks so bad. thanks for listening to my rants.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 11:24pm

End it now. You don't need the drama to distract you as you are preparing for the bar exam.

Good luck with that...I've taken (and passed ;-)) 3 of them...NOT a fun process!

Sheri