I am lost without him!

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Registered: 07-24-2007
I am lost without him!
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 2:53pm
My boyfriend and i recently split....he said that he needs time to think.. I say that is an easy let down because even i have used this excuse. he told me no, that if he was really done, he would say that and leave.
What he did:
He sends messages and recieves messages from random girls. some he knows, some he meets online. I have found messages on three or four occasions and question him about this. i don't see when he would have time to physically cheat. we are always together!!! but the messages are inappropriate and sometimes vulgar. he swears that he has never cheated and i do think he is honest about this.
What I did:
I snooped and and snooped some more! i had finally had enough. I was mad and hurt and very upset. I logged into his email and messaged one of the girls that i thought that he was cheating with. turns out, they have been great friends for years and she and i talked on the phone for an hour and i realized that i had messed up. i made a lot of mean and untrue accusations and now realize that again i was wrong.
The problem:
I am so in love with this man. He is everything i have ever wanted. i am so heartbroken and upset that i cannot function. He says that i have crossed a major line by messaging his friend and invading his privacy once again. So , he broke things off because he needs time to think. What do i do now to fix this? I want him back desperately and don't know what to do to fix what it is that i have done. if anyone has some advice on whati can do, please share.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 3:11pm

Welcome to the board spoodle2007,


I highly recommend you take his 'thinking' time to work on your self-esteem, because his behavior is inappropriate for someone in a committed relationship "but the messages are inappropriate and sometimes vulgar. "


::He is everything i have ever wanted.


You wanted someone that would write vulgar messages to another women and because they were long time friends