I am so WEAK! :( :( :(

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Registered: 06-27-2006
I am so WEAK! :( :( :(
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 9:38pm

After not having any kind of contact with my ex for about four days, I gave in and called him today! He got two cellphones. A personal one and one for his job. I called both, and left a voicemail on one of them. He has not call me back... I feel horrible. I feel so stupid for calling him. It just felt so right to call him.

Why did he ignore my call(s)? I just called once on his personal one, and twice on his work phone, second time to leave a voicemail...

:(:( :( :( :(

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:10pm

The first week is the hardest to have no contact because the break up is so new and painful. Please do not call him again. I would hate for you to look deseperate and you just get more frustrated because he is not picking up. If you feel the need to call again, call a family member or friend. I wanted so badly to call me ex around that 4 day mark but I had so many people on this board and close friends who said don't do it even if it was just to tell him I was moving on. Let your ex wonder what you are doing and you go on with your life and be the rockin girl you are.

Stay strong and if need be, email me if you get the urge to call him again.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:17pm

I feel upset that he ignored me...

I wanted to control myself from contacting him, but I already did... well kinda, since he didn't pick up.

Now, I hope that I do not regret for calling...

Why am I so weak? I want to be a strong woman.

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:34pm

Because you are hurt and sometimes the pain is so overwhelming that we don't always think straight and have this feeling that if I call one last time, he will want to talk and we may salvage the relationship. If you have to, go for a walk, a run, shopping, dining out with friends and family and leave your cell phone behind so you are not tempted to call. I really feel your pain but look at this as a sign, that if he didn't return your call, he is not ready to talk to you or has moved on himself. It is hard to stay strong and have NC but in the long run, you will feel better about yourself. Don't let this destroy your self-esteem because you are worth much more than this guy could give you.

Hugs!

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 10:22am

I'm so sorry sweetie.

Maybe you need to do the whole no contact thing for awhile. I did it for 4 weeks. And it really did help me. I healed and now I'm doing really great. I finally did contact him 3 weeks ago and we've talked several times since then. Nothing about our relationship just about what we've been doing, that sort of thing.

I don't know why he didn't answer or hasn't called you back, there could be a million reasons as to why. Don't stress over it though.

Go out with friends, keep yourself busy.

It has been two months since my ex broke up with me, and trust me when I say it does get better! :)

(((((HUGS)))))

~Amber~

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Registered: 07-01-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:22am
I didn't call my ex for over 2 weeks and just called him yesterday. His mom answered and I hung up. Talk about weak. I really felt a lot worse after it and even had nightmares that night. So I think for me, calling was a real setback. He knows he could call me anytime and I'd go back to him in a heartbeat. How pathetic.
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Registered: 05-03-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 3:35am

My X broke up with me in April, and I still make all kind of excuses to myself and to him for calling. We talk but not about us (because its over for him) and each time after I hang up I have a melt down which takes days to get over. So my advice is Don't call, but its easier said than done, hopefully someday I will stop but its really really hard.

I will not call him if you don't call your guy, lets try it for a week?

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Registered: 07-01-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:38pm
I'll give it a try but right now I really want to call. I even drove to where his mother works to see if she was there so I could call him at home if she was working (she wouldn't answer the phone). I don't know what is better: to think about the things we used to do and say, 'well, that's just not going to happen anymore with him' and try to do it with someone else or on my own OR just block out the thoughts of what we used to do. Like, we used to play basketball together all the time and we had so many songs together and stuff. You wouldn't believe how kind he was. What do people do with awful feelings?
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Registered: 05-03-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:51pm
I know its hard, my X was really kind and nice too, but he droped me for whatever the reason. And when that happens men are pretty sure about their desicion. Men are different in the way that they don't feel and think like us. They don't sit there and be sad and like us. Once they make their minds, thats it.So you need to be strong too, don't let him have the satisfaction that you are still pinning about him, you don't need him, don't need to call him. If he truly wanted to be with you he will call you. right?
call your friends instead, ask them to help you not call, be strong!