I am so WEAK! :( :( :(
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I am so WEAK! :( :( :(
| Thu, 06-29-2006 - 9:38pm |
After not having any kind of contact with my ex for about four days, I gave in and called him today! He got two cellphones. A personal one and one for his job. I called both, and left a voicemail on one of them. He has not call me back... I feel horrible. I feel so stupid for calling him. It just felt so right to call him.
Why did he ignore my call(s)? I just called once on his personal one, and twice on his work phone, second time to leave a voicemail...
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The first week is the hardest to have no contact because the break up is so new and painful. Please do not call him again. I would hate for you to look deseperate and you just get more frustrated because he is not picking up. If you feel the need to call again, call a family member or friend. I wanted so badly to call me ex around that 4 day mark but I had so many people on this board and close friends who said don't do it even if it was just to tell him I was moving on. Let your ex wonder what you are doing and you go on with your life and be the rockin girl you are.
Stay strong and if need be, email me if you get the urge to call him again.
I feel upset that he ignored me...
I wanted to control myself from contacting him, but I already did... well kinda, since he didn't pick up.
Now, I hope that I do not regret for calling...
Why am I so weak? I want to be a strong woman.
Because you are hurt and sometimes the pain is so overwhelming that we don't always think straight and have this feeling that if I call one last time, he will want to talk and we may salvage the relationship. If you have to, go for a walk, a run, shopping, dining out with friends and family and leave your cell phone behind so you are not tempted to call. I really feel your pain but look at this as a sign, that if he didn't return your call, he is not ready to talk to you or has moved on himself. It is hard to stay strong and have NC but in the long run, you will feel better about yourself. Don't let this destroy your self-esteem because you are worth much more than this guy could give you.
Hugs!
I'm so sorry sweetie.
Maybe you need to do the whole no contact thing for awhile. I did it for 4 weeks. And it really did help me. I healed and now I'm doing really great. I finally did contact him 3 weeks ago and we've talked several times since then. Nothing about our relationship just about what we've been doing, that sort of thing.
I don't know why he didn't answer or hasn't called you back, there could be a million reasons as to why. Don't stress over it though.
Go out with friends, keep yourself busy.
It has been two months since my ex broke up with me, and trust me when I say it does get better! :)
(((((HUGS)))))
~Amber~
My X broke up with me in April, and I still make all kind of excuses to myself and to him for calling. We talk but not about us (because its over for him) and each time after I hang up I have a melt down which takes days to get over. So my advice is Don't call, but its easier said than done, hopefully someday I will stop but its really really hard.
I will not call him if you don't call your guy, lets try it for a week?
call your friends instead, ask them to help you not call, be strong!