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I badly need advice
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 7:11am |
so to start things off...me and my bf have been going out almost 4 months now. things are going well in the sense that he treats me like a goddess and i know that i mean everything to him and all of that good stuff...but thats where my whole dilema starts. I guess for one..im not used to all the good treatment that hes giving me....two..hes VERY clingy...and he always talks about getting married and what lifes going to be like later on...i like thinking about all that i suppose but im only in highschool...i just want to have a good time. i didnt think the relationship was going to get so serious so fast and now i dont know what to do? its starting to almost freak me out with the things he talks about...i just want to be a normal highschool kid. i dont want to think of my married life 6 or 7 years down the road. ive been thinking a ton lately and i start to think about how i miss everything i had before this whole relationship and that makes me want to be single again. but i am also very afraid of what would happen if i broke up with him...hes already told me that he would have no reason to live without me in his life and i somehow believe it. i dont ever want him to so anything like that to himself but i dont want to be unhappy my whole last year of highschool either...or i could try to work it out with him and just tell him that he cant be as clingy as he is right now and stuff but that raises a nother problem and that is the fact that i have already tried this before and he gets very defensive and takes it very personally and whatnot. its not him doing anything wrong...hes just a very devoted and very long term-based boyfriend. i didnt really know this going into the relationship or i wouldnt have let it get this far. but now that im in it i dont know what to do without hurting him too bad or worse yet making him do something to hurt himself...i could never live with myself if something like that happened. so im really confused on what to do and what to say and all of that. if you guys had any advice that would be so great. thank you all so much for taking the time to read this and respond.
Brittany
Brittany

The guy seems to be inexperience in life and this is only part of his learning process. It is quite likely that he will not kill himself if you break up with him, that's what adult people even think when they are in love with someone. When things are over and we overcome the break up we really laugh at those silly things we said.
Tell him that you are not interested in a long term relationship with him, he cannot force you to have one against your will. If he accepts what you want to offer, fine. If he refuses or gets upset then think if that is the person you want to deal with.
Iliana