I broke his heart!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2004
I broke his heart!
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 2:00pm

So last night I broke it off with my finace whom I have been together with for 4 years.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 4:53pm


I'm wondering what does quitting your job have to do with your relationship with your now Ex-Finace?

I also find it interesting that once you moved in together you stopped "feeling connected?" Was living together day-to-day too predictable for you? You might want to think about what it is you really want from a relationship...excitement, anticipation, etc? Does the idea of a falling into a routine not suit you?

Did you move out? Is he? If you plan to continue to live together it doesn't do any good to "break up." Someone should move.

Good luck. The first day is hard and then it gets easier with time...but you have to actually be apart. ;-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 12:39am

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Break-ups do hurt. However, if your relationship indeed has been dead for a while and there is no worthwhile

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2004
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 9:22am

Well, it is not just the fact that we live together. I took this job to be near him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2011
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 4:12am

as you say you are not feeling connected since last year with him , then i think you take a good

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:25pm

I know it hurts really bad to see the immediate effect of a breakup. It's not something that anyone with a conscience enjoys doing. Hurting people is really difficult, but not all relationships can work out. Think of it this way - If he's not the one for you, then you're not the one for him. It's something that he can't see yet, but in time he will be able to. He may be hurting very badly right now, but it would be far more cruel to continue a relationship with him when you dont' feel connected to him. If this didn't happen now, it would happen later - Probably after a wedding.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2009
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 6:37am

Wow, in a lot of ways I could have written this-- I know exactly how you feel.