I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years

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Registered: 07-13-2006
I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years
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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 6:19pm

and I'm just wondering if anyone else would have in this situation...
He lied to me about going to florida. He knows I don't like his friend there because his friend is a notorious cheater, and goes to a stripclub like every night, and brings them home and sleeps with them...so I once said if he ever went there to visit, that I'd want to go, too, because I was worried. I mean I knew my boyfriend wouldn't do anything bad, just that his friend will try to pull him into something crazy..

The other day I moved back home to find a job, so we were going to do a long distance relationship. He booked a plane to see his friend and I saw his ticket, but he didn't know I saw it. I knew it was cuz he was upset that I was leaving and wanted to take his mind off of it and I mean I'd never stop him from going, I'd just be worried. He never told me, and the day of the flight he lied one lie after another to me. Then he busted himself with the lies because they didn't make sense. So I told him I knew he was in florida...he called to apologize and said that he thought I would just freak out and think he was doing something bad while he was there...I broke up though because it made me realize I just really can't trust him, cuz if he lied to protect my feelings to stop me from worrying, what else could he lie about? That was such a big lie! He was going to pretend that he was home the entire time that he was in florida...and actually, hes lied to me about porn like four times so far, but thats so minor compared to this lie.
We thought we were going to get married...

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:57pm

Hi orchid,


Sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 03-21-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 6:16pm
YES I would have done the same...in fact I just broke up with my bf of 5 years for the exact same reason as you...I figure if he is going to lie this time about something so major what's going to stop him the next time...loss of trust=loss of relationship...