I can't believe and I refuse

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Registered: 06-19-2005
I can't believe and I refuse
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Sun, 06-19-2005 - 5:04pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years off and on. Recently he's finally become friends with my best friend, (they used to despise each other). I've been so happy because we can all hang out. After a bad fight my boyfriend says he no longer believes in us. I beg for another chance and he says ok. One day later he says he's changed his mind. I couldn't sleep, we live togehr and he slept in another room. I woke up while he was in the shower and I checked his text messages. Sure enough him and my best friend have been flirting and admitted to each other they ahve feelings for one another. Now I will admit my boyfriend and I have had our ups and downs, I have clinical depression and I can be therefore difficult. I confronted him and all he could do was apologize. My best friend said he was going to dump me anywayz so whats the big deal. Needless to say she's no longer a respectable human being in my eyes. My big problem, I want him back and I'll do anything. We've been thought way to much to throw it away now. He's been frustrated and she took advantage of it. I know he still loves me. How do I get him back?? We don't have closure yet, I took off the morning I found out about them. I asked him to rethink his life. I'm hoping he is. Please help me, I can't go back home without some advice.
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Registered: 07-28-2003
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 9:24pm

Why do you want him back in your life when he's been lying to you and developing a relationship with your "best" friend behind your back?

Have you lost your mind and self-respect?

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 1:46am
Tough situation, but you have to accept that you have a BF who cheats on you and a best friend who took your man. They deserve each other. Yes, you've been together 4 years -on and off-, but that's not enough reason to want him back. Do you want him back to get back at your ex friend? I'd think about the 4 years of the relationship and see why it was on and off...were there other issues similar to the latest one? You can't change your BF ideas and if he wants to see the other woman then he'll do it. I wouldn't want to live a life of jealousy and constant secresy looking at his phone to see who text him, would you?