I can't get over it

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Registered: 03-02-2007
I can't get over it
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Fri, 03-02-2007 - 11:28am

Hi everyone

My boyfriend broke up with me last week. We were together for 6 years, and the only reason he can give me is that he doesn't think we are right. Why drag it on for 6 years?

I am devastated. I really don't no what to do, he was my life, the best thing that ever happened to me and now he's gone.
I feel so alone and depressed, the lowest I have ever felt. Everything has a memory, from what I eat to what I watch on tv.

I don't no how I can get through this, I can't see anything positive. I can't eat, I can't sleep properly. I can't see myself ever getting over it.
Everyone keeps saying how I'll get over it and that there are plenty more fish in the sea. I don't want another fish, I want this one. I really don't beleive I will ever be happy again.

I've broke every rule by contacting him to try to make him change his mind. But this really is it and I can't accept it. I can see myself being unhappy forever.

I really thought he was the one, and what if he was the one but I wasn't for him?

Help me I don't no what to do to get over this

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Registered: 02-25-2007
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 2:22pm
You'll get there in time. Don't beat yourself up!

~Kelly~

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 4:41pm
Wow, this changing the name of your ex on your phone to something else... this is a brilliant idea. Expecially since the phone is my worst enemy at the moment. Thanks for the great idea. (btw, I'm also reading Stephen King's Cell, in which cell phones turn you into literal zombies... I'm beginning to think they're just plain evil all around. :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 8:28pm

Just to add to the calendar thing (which I do also)--I use the calendars that come in Oprah magazine (tear them out and put them up on the fridge), so not only do I get the visual of the X's which is positive, I also get great, uplifting quotes!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-02-2007
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 1:04pm

I think I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel.

Me and my ex broke up once before about 5 months ago n we got back together but the last 3 months weren't right. I have now realised why!!

We became that comfortable with each other that our feelings changed into friendship, the physical things in the relationship stopped aswell. It stopped being a relationship and more a friendship but we didn't see it, until now.
I feel better already about everything as i now realise we were/are best friends.

We have just been talking to each other about it and crying happy tears coz we have realised this at last.

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Registered: 02-11-2007
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 1:27pm

belly is right...being here is like having your own counselors. YOU WILL FEEL BETTER. Then possbily not so good again....THEN BETTER. It's super sucky. Period. One day at a time and some days? one hour at a time...

You truly will get excellent advice from people here. People do care. I care. The world can be pretty crappy - we need to stick together. I'm here if you want to talk. I'm about 4 weeks in to my b/u. I've come a long way - mostly due to the advice I've recv'd here.

Please take care of yourself. You deserve better.

K.

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Registered: 03-05-2007
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 2:35pm
we can't help who we love , even though they may not want us like we want them, I am going though something similar , and I just take it day by day , I don't know what else to do , I just hope one day soon , he may see what he is missing ... and if you are into praying , well, ask God to take your pain away , and if the guy isn't the one God has for you, ask Him to help you be able to move on ... honestly , that has gotten me thru some bad days..

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