I cant move on!!!

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Registered: 05-26-2005
I cant move on!!!
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Sun, 08-26-2007 - 11:08pm
Ok i have been dating this guy off and on for 3 yrs. and we just got in a fight and he said im never gonna talk to u again. but he has said that b4 and has givin in within 2 days. but it has been over a week since i have seen him and 4 days since he talked to me. and i tried so hard not to send him a text but i did alot of them and emails. and not one thing from him not ONE!!! How can he not give in i couldnt do it more then a day. I love him but dont like the things he does and he always trys to get me to do family events and i just dont like doin that stuff unless it was my blood family. so thats one things we fight about and he smokes hangs with his friends all the time. and of course we went through the heartach of both of us being with someone else and that was hard. The worst pain i ever felt in my life is when the one u loves is with another. But we worked past it. or he did i just cant stop bringing it up cuz it hurts. it has been over a yr ago. The reason that got us into this fight is well he told me he loves me an doesnt want anyone but me but of course we keep breakin up a few times and in that time he starts to like yet another girl. then he comes over one day sayin that he started likin another girl so he stopped talkin to her cuz he loves me. then the story changed to " we didnt have a connection , she was weird and just stopped talkin to me one day"
so i started thinking does he really want me cuz he just said he wouldnt go to anyone else but me then he tells me he liked another girl. So i tell him that then he says " no i think i said id wait for u forever after the 2nd girl i liked" i was like no u have been tellin me that after the first one. so its hard to even know what hes even thinking. i think he would stay with me and be happy if we stopped breakin up every week. i dont know what do u think?

 

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 11:01am
I think you need to stop contacting him.
It sounds like he is stringing you along while he is out meeting these other girls.
You need to read the post about N/C and Giving him Space. Stop calling him, texting him and taking his calls, he needs to miss you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 1:24pm

Welcome to the board nestle2005,


Here's the articles the previous poster mentioned:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break")

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Registered: 10-13-2006
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 1:55pm
well I'm the last person to be giving advice because my bf and I just broke up a week ago and now he's on myspace talking to nasty girls. When I saw that I lost it. I sent him like 2 emails & a few test messages. I haven't called him but I'm devestaed. He actually sent me a text last night saying he got over me fast & everyone is laughing at me. I don't know who everyone would be considerign he has no friends but ok. I want him to call me & say something nice but I knwo that won't happen. He was a jerk to me & very sneeky and I want him to call because being abondoned and knowing your bf who you were engaged too is already out with other girls or at least talking to them. I jsut have to keep coming on these message boards everytime I want to call him or text him or email him because I have to get over him & it's not going to be by contacting him. I have all these emotions. I'm sad, nervous, angry, not eating, not sleeping well. I feel like I'm not good enough for him even though I know I am. I feel really bad right now & I just want to feel something other than how I do now & have since he left last week. How can someone who says they love you, ask you to marry them, then treat you like dirt & tell lies & act sneaky to me & then start talkign to and seeign other woman asap?? I am devestated.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 2:06pm

See, I think you are the perfect person to give advice...they want to write that letter and you already did it - encouraging them not to would be a wonderful thing.


You are NOT less than because of his actions, choices, decisions, words or behavior.