i cant take it....
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| Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:23am |
Ok so here it goes...after three days im able to talk about this...im sixteen years old...I know im young but im very mature for my age... so I just began working at a restaurant that is owned by my dads very dear friends. Everyone who works there knows me as his daughter and is watching out for me...it’s like a big family. The first week I was working there, one of the servers who worked there and I began to talk, not often but enough. Stuff happened and I ended up giving him my number. I didn’t hear from him for a week and it turns out he lost my number. So he asks for it again and that night he texts me telling say, "Thanks for saying Goodbye"... you know something flirty and cute. So we texted on and off through the next week not alot but enough. That Friday I see him at work and we talked alot. We both got off work early because of a snowstorm so we sat and drank coffee and ate leftover cake form the party. That night we texted until very late and he asked me on our first date, which being sixteen I was ecstatic about! Having not been in a real relationship for a while I thought I could let someone in like him, who was sweet caring and wonderful. The next night was one of the best nights of my life, we stayed out until twelve talking about everything, and we clicked so well. That night we texted and he said I was the girl of his dreams, that I rocked his socks, and that I was amazing. I was absolutely smitten. I didn’t realize I feel so strongly about one person so soon. Call me young and inexperienced but I fell hard. The next week was amazing...everyday when I would get home from school and he would call me, or I would call him when he got home from work. Nothing could have been better...I have never smiled so much in my life. He was my life, all I would do was think about him and seeing him. He was so sweet and was so charming and he completely mesmerized me. Now the heartbreaking part. We were supposed to go out on Friday night, go get coffee and I had made sure it was ok with my dad and reluctantly it was. I was so excited. Thursday night i get home and get a text that says "i can’t take you on that date tonight"... i was so confused. Did he meet someone else...is he hurt...is he just busy. So i tell him to call me and the moment i hear his voice i know something’s wrong. He is so sad.... it turns out things were said between people at work and they threatened him with his job if he kept talking and dating me.... WHAT THE F**K! They may be like family but they can’t tell me whom i can date and they certainly can’t threaten jobs with our relationship. So that night got off the phone with him and stayed up crying all night...all night my heart was broken and that has never happened to me before.... i t was terrible... the next day i went into school and i was a mess... everyone was wondering what was wrong and i told them...i missed him so much... that day i went on a field trip thank god with my best friend so all day i was on her shoulder crying...i didn’t know how to deal with it...it hurt so so bad. Everything was reminding me off him... everything... that night i had to go to work and everyone was there who i knew had said something... They acted like nothing was wrong but were being extremely nice to me...give me a break they wouldn’t even come talk to me they acted as if i was fine with everything...i f they only knew the horrible pain i was feeling...m heart split in too barely beating anymore... i went from an extreme high to an extreme low so quickly i don’t even know how i pulled myself together...so i went home that night and cried...then came last night which was the first night i have seen him. Things weren’t awkward they were so sad...we couldn’t even talk without people looking at us.... throughout the night the girl i was working with would see him staring at me not creepy but longingly missing me...knowing that he missed me as much as i missed him tore me up inside...i started to freak out not knowing what to do...i started to break down...i have never had anyone look at me so sad before...i miss him so much... i miss him so so so much...last night i couldn’t take it anymore and i sent him a text message...at around 11:30 but he still hasn’t responded i mean he is most likely still sleeping but i cant help but think i made a mistake...but he still likes me ....he told me he was falling in love with me...and i was falling in love with him...i like him so much.... and people ruined it before anything more could happen all because we were two years apart. Actually two years 5 months and 7 days apart.... how many couples throughout history have been more than two years apart...i could name 10 off the top of my head...people don’t understand what love is anymore...there so wrapped up in there horribly morbid lives that have no love in them that they have to ruin mine and others...i cant even take it anymore...my heart is so broken and i have no idea what to do...after this long story i just need to know...what should i do...can anyone help me...please... im so sad and so young i don’t have any experience with this kind of pain
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-greeneyedgrl16

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Hi greeneyedgirl16 - since your father reluctantly
If your dad is friends with the people who own the restaurant, can he go and speak to them on your behalf? These people may have just assumed that you hid the relationship from your parents given the age difference and wanted to avoid any possibility of your father storming in one night, screaming that they shouldn't have let this relationship happen. It is possible also that maybe this guy does have a history of bad break-ups perhaps with former employees, but I think they might have gone to you rather than just threatening his job. Companies can impose a rule of no dating (seems silly, but there are valid reasons for it), but the more professional thing would have been to call you both in for a meeting and express their concerns.
I definitely think that they're just trying to spare themselves any kind of confrontation with your dad. If your dad is cool with the relationship have him go and speak to the managers of the restaurant. If they don't budge, just relax - you are only 16 and you won't be working there forever. Keep being friends with the guy. If he's really that into you he will wait and I don't think companies can impose a rule on who you can be friends with.
Hope things work out.