I can't take it
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I can't take it
| Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:04pm |
I miss him so much.. I miss us curling up together.. I want to call, but he'll ignore my calls, plus he's at work. He always picked up the phone and talked with me, but we decided that we need a couple of weeks to go by to contact one another again. I need some encourgment to get through this.......
How can people be friends after??
I know I cared for him, but I still have deep feelings for him and miss us that I don't know how to be friends..He said he's still attached to me and will always hold a piece of me in his heart..
even though he's kinda seeing another woman 3000 miles away in CA.

Skittlesrock,
Breaking up is difficult, it is likely to be the most intense emotional experience you've had in your life so far. You have to believe me and the other posters on this board when we say that we know the pain you are feeling! It is hard when someone who you previously hardly went a couple of hours without seeing and/or speaking to is suddenly out of your life; however, not contacting him is the fastest way to heal.
From what I can see in your posts, it is simply too soon for you to try and have a friendship with your ex. He is trying to let you down easy, but the reality is that he has another relationship he wants to pursue. You need to concentrate on yourself and what you want out of your life. The sooner you do that and begin moving forward, the faster you will heal and the faster it will be that you'll find yourself cuddled up with a new guy who is going to love you back! Your ex cannot do that for you right now and staying close with him is most likely only going to make it more difficult for you to move on.
I really hope you don't think I am trying to be mean or hurtful; that is not my intention. I just want you to realize that you need to move forward, not back and as time passes, so will the pain! We've all been there, we've made it through, and I'm sure you can do that as well!
I agree with neatnclean... it's just going to take some time. When I went through my breakup last year I finally had to tell my ex to give me space and let me heal- no phone calls or emails. It worked and we're at the point now where we are very close, as friends.
So, it will take time but maybe you can be friends eventually. For now though, the best thing for you is NO CONTACT. Whenever you feel like calling or writing to him, come and post here instead... we've all been there and know exactly how you feel.
Take care sweetie...
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