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I desperately need advice
| Fri, 01-14-2005 - 3:44pm |
I have posted once before when about the same thing happened. I have been with this man for almost 3 years. We have had a yo yo of a relationship. I have a back injury and was on pain medication for 3 years. It got the point where there was an addiction there. I have since then got help and have been off of them for about 1 month. My ex found out and flipped. My couselor says that if he loves me then he would be there for me no matter what. These pills made me do stuff I normally would not do: Write bad checks, stole money from him ( which I tried to repay before he found out) I am by no means proud of what I have done. I am very ashamed. Back in June I found out he had been cheating on me for 2 years with 7 different women. We stayed apart for app.3 months and then he decided he wanted me back. Well a month ago is when I came clean with all of my dirt about my addiction which was a very hard thing to do (I was receiving a perscription for the medication and when they were gone bought them off the street) He broke up with me on December 29, I told him that if he didn't want me to stop calling which he didn't. So Monday I went to his house and we talked and laughed and made love, and it was wonderful, just like I had always wanted our relationship. yesterday I found out he had been cheating on me again, with one of the girls from before. He told me he was in love with her, because she treats him good, makes him feel good about himself. He says I treated him bad but I dont' see that I did I tried to make us work. i just had a problems thazt I needed to fix. I am so sad. i have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who loves him and his family to death. He has a 3 year old son. This girl he is in love with now was cheating on her husband while he was cheating on me. I am so sad and hurt. I feel like my whole life is going down the drain. I need help. What did I do to deserve this? Please any advice will be greatly appreciated. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

You didn't do "anything" to deserve being treated like crap - no one does.
madysmom2000,
You did nothing to deserve it! Hindsight being 20/20, I think the only thing that could have prevented the situation you are in at this very moment would have been to let him go (and let him go for good!) back when you found out that he cheated on you with 7 different women. Have no regrets, just learn from it and move on! Because, we all deserve to be in healthy relationships.
And guess what? The relationship he has with the girl he's in love with ... sounds like they deserve each other! Karma's a pain in the ass. You can move on in a healthy way and KNOW that the "love" they have will eventually blow up b/c starting a relationship when both people are still involved with other people rarely works out.