I did it!
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| Wed, 01-31-2007 - 12:01pm |
I finally did it.
After a year and a 1/2 I finally have mustered up the courage to break up with my fiancee. I am devastated, sad, emotionally drained! But I did the right thing.
Our relationship I believe, was doomed from the start. There were always issues with trust and honesty on his part and even though I'm not perfect...I am NOT a liar! I'd been trying to work through my issues together with him (most of my issues stemed from insecurity, low self-esteem and jealousy) but one month after he asked me to marry him (December 2006) I find out he's been SLEEPING with the mother of his child for over a year! I found this out just 3 weeks ago and I've been devastated...and to top it all off I found out the same day that he was cheating that I was pregnant! Oh gosh, I thought I'd tried to make it work, since we were engaged...but I knew I wasn't able emotionally to bring a child into this world.
Well yesterday I was online and found out that he's still been "flirting" and chit-chatting with all sorts of women online. When I try calmly to discuss this...he flies of the handle and says to me that I'm "Not worth it and I've never been worth it!" Then he has also been looking up his ex-girlfriend online and trying to locate her. What put it over the top was the fact that 2 weeks ago I asked if he thought it was appropriate for him to start introducing me as his "fiancee" and he said "NO." He then proceeded to say that the title "fiancee" is not a big deal and no one really "talks like that".
He's been out of work since September...and I've been financially supporting us...with paying all the bills, HIS cell phone bill, bought Christmas presents for HIS kids and family and him and I did not get one present from him under the tree this year. Not even a card. Yes, it may sound superficial...but I'm over it.
My heart is so cold right now....that this breakup doesn't even hurt??

I'm sorry to hear of your bad situation but it sounds like you made absolutely the right decision in breaking things off!
Keep us posted on how you're doing.
Sheri