I did the right thing, Right?

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Registered: 11-29-2004
I did the right thing, Right?
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Fri, 04-22-2005 - 2:52pm
Hi everyone! I've been reading everyones post here for awhile now. Now i'm just ready to get some advice on my situation. I broke up with my boyfriend of almost a year 3 weeks ago. We had this long distance relationship. Which was really hard to keep. We saw each other pretty often though. He's a trucker. I'm a divorce mother of two. I haven't had a serious relationship since my divorce and thought it was time to give it a chance. We fell in love pretty quick. ( or so i think it was love ) I'm pretty settle in life with my job and financally. Hes also 10 years my senior. We started out pretty good. I even consider quiting my job and moving 3000 miles away, leaving everything i know. Four months into the relationship things started to get a little rocky. I would make plans on flying over there and they wouldn't happen, something would come up and i couldn't make it. He was starting to get tired of me making plans and not going through with them. But they were good excuses, my daughter got really sick once and was hospitalized for a week. He started to talk to other people on his cell phone (chat rooms). Oh I forgot, that's how we met. He carried on this relationship with this girls and i confronted him about it. He stoped and changed his number. He's excuse was my not so willingness to commit to him or what ever. One more thing i got him the freaking cell phone too. (stupid me) Long story short things weren't so good after that. I lost all trust in him. But he tried to gain it back. I still stayed with him. I loved him. In January he came to visit me for a week, which became 2 months. He was suppose to come just to visit and relax. I thought about leaving, I really wanted to be with him. He quit his job to come too. while he was here he started getting close with one of my bestfriends. And yeah i admitted i was jealous. All the attention i was getting from him was gone when she was around. He assured me nothing was going on and he doesn't find her attravtive. She was just easier to goof around with than me. Anyways while he was here i decided i didn't want to be with him. He was doing things that would make me mad on purpose and that i would find out. When he got back my so call bestfriend and ex were keeping intouch and decided to talk about me. He was telling her i said some untruthful things and she told him i said so and so. It became drama. I confronted him, she wouldn't talk to me. I've finally let both of them go. I've since moved on, I think. I still love him and want him. I find myself thinking about him all the time and the good times we had. Oh by the way i fork over the money for everything that whole year, he was broke. I did the right thing, right? I'm just having a hard time getting over him. Maybe once the cell phone comes back things would be easier.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:51pm
I know it must have been hard to end things with your ex and your friend but I DO think you did the right thing.
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Registered: 12-30-2004
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 1:20pm
Hey there,
I'm in a simmialr situation where I broke up with my live in bf, who was basically sponging off me for most of our time together. From reading your post, I think the tone says it all, even though you weren't furious or hateful, I still got that your ex wasn't the most considerate of guys. You've obviously thought about your feelings for him and considered breaking up with him with a clear mind. It seems like you KNOW this is the right thing, but need a little encouragement. I'm in the same boat too. Most of my friends and family supported the decision to break up, but I still need reassurance that I gave it my all and did the right thing in the end. It's too bad your friend is such a jerk that she can't be there for you when you really need her. Your life will be much better without those two clowns in it.
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Fri, 04-29-2005 - 3:23pm
Thanks!