i did something i regret......
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| Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:34pm |
So i have been posting for a while here about how i sort of broke off with my boyfriend, more like he stopped calling but i had wanted to break up with him before. the reason of the "break up" was becasue i had the feeling that he was cheating on me and he always lied to me and stood me up all the time and i just couldnt take it anymore. But since he just stopped calling, i felt that i needed to get some answer and have some closure and boy did i get it. about 2 months ago i had found a receipt for an ipod that my ex had bought with my money for his ex-girlfriend according to him they are still friends. Well i was pretty sure that he was cheating on me with her, due to the fact that at first he wouldnt tell me who she was and she was always calling him. So in my mind i figured that if i was to get answers it will be from her, so i decided to write her an email (a really nice respectful email) and just sort of tell her who i was and how i was very confuse and how i wasnt sure if they were together or not, etc.....and i asked her to please let me know if it will be ok for me to talk to her, but just to keep it between until we knew really what was going on. Well she got it and she didnt keep it to her self. the first thing she did was get in the phone with him and told him all about it. of course this got him super mad and now he hates me and told me to stay out of his life. i tried to explain to him that i didnt mean to hurt him in anyway but that i was confused and i had tried to talk to him before and he would just lie about everything. and i tried to explain why i did it that i did do it to be mean. of course he didnt understand. and now i regret doing this. i have never hurt anyone in my life, i didnt mean for it to be like this, i was just hurt and confused. i mean i know that there is no future for us even before this but i didnt want him to hate me either. so anyways after our argument over the phone he hung up and then about 30 minutes later he text message me saying "thank you so much i have received 6 calls about this and lost 2 friends" (i dont get it) so asked him that if he wanted me to stay out of his life then to please stay out of mine. he wrote back and said you are right bye. and that was it. i feel so bad though.
anyways any feed back will be appreciated.
thank you

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Hi all,
thank you for your support. i am changing the door lock as we speak and i will also be changing my self phone since he called this morning and said that he was coming after me and my family. I filled a police report on him. See the other girl called me and well i found out that they have been together for a year and a half....in other words i was the other woman without knowing it. Right now more then anything i am in shock i cant cry and i cant think straight. this is the man that i loved with all of my heart and he was doing this to both of us. and she sounds like such a nice girl over the phone. i just dont know how to get rid of the pain right now. i was the week girlfriend and she was the weekend girlfriend. sometimes he would alternate between the 2 of us. i just dont know......
Wow, I am so sorry for your pain. Try to focus on the fact that he isn't worth the pain. I think you need to be greatful you found out just what kind of person he is. If you can't have trust and honesty you don't have anything. You deserve so much more. I have to believe there are guys out there worthy of our love and trust. We just have to recognize the warning signs of the ones who aren't and run as fast and as far as we can at the first sign of trouble. I think if we are honest there are almost always red flags that we chose to ignore or make excuses for. I am a prime example of that.
Hang in there and know that you are not alone.
Leslie
Oh my gosh, you poor thing! That is terrible! What a shock to find out that he could do such a thing.
Good for you, though, for taking care of yourself by changing the locks and filing a police report. Can you stay with friends or family for a few days, just to be on the safe side?
Sheri
i will be staying with friends this next couple of days....
i just cant imagine why will someone do something like this.......and oh my god!!! a couple of months he had been asking me about rings.....he will ask me if i prefered white or gold and then he will ask me what ring size i was. and i thought that he was asking me becasue he was going to buy me an engament ring.....and it was probably for her.....and weeks later i saw the ring and i was expecting him to propose at any minute.......but he was just using me to get info for her ring........
i believed everythign he said......i mean we were sleeping in her bed!! her bed that she needed to store so he said that he will put in his room. what kind of monster is he????
i am sorry i am just so hurt.
Hi,
Don't be sorry at all! You have PERFECT right to be upset. He certainly is NOT WORTH you and your love. Also, don't be angry at yourself either - I know how that feels. Men seem to be very good at saying all the right words these days and we seem to be believing all kinds of crock. It isn't just you - she is probably just as taken in as you have been.
Be as angry as you need to - let it out - we are here for you.
Ash
thank you ash,
so its been a week already i am a little bit more calm. i still hurt like hell, but at least i dont cry as much as i used to. she seems to be thinking about forgiving him and giving him another. and you know i am actually ok with that. i know i gave him the best of me and he decided to walk away from it and thats fine. i hope that someone more deserving of me will come along. i will just stay positive.
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