I did something stupid...
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I did something stupid...
| Wed, 06-07-2006 - 12:46pm |
So I found this board and starting reading some excerpts and I realize I did something totally stupid. I initiated contact (sent an email) with my ex because I felt I needed to have a closure talk. Well now things are back to how I remember, with me waiting on him for one thing or another! He asked me for a time I gave him a couple and he said he has to run some errands but will let me know...so now its the waiting game again. Gosh am I dumb..now I am not even sure I even want to meet with him after all..what do i do/say now??

What do you do?
It is perfectly ok to change your mind. If you don't want to talk to him anymore, or you feel it is an unhealthy mood, don't. Just tell him that after some more thought you have the closure you thought you needed and it would just be best if you did not meet face to face. The only thing is, once you say that you have to stick to your guns. If you are truly trying to move on, then move on. It is hard, but if you take it one day at a time and find positive distractions, you will make it.
T.
oh men.....i think every situation is different coz read manno post (amber) she call her exbf but things seem great to her and i want to copy her to call my exbf too....now reading your post it give's me a reason rather not to call him. yakkkkksss!!
can you tell me you story please..how you guys end? atleast i have short of idea
I don't think it was stupid of you. You wanted to resolve things and now that you've spoken to him, you realize that you have closure and that he isn't going ot change his behavior. So you know you deserve better. Good for you, I say.
I also contacted my ex last weekend and we were going to try and work things out. But as the week has gone on and he has become more distant and aloof in our conversations, I realize that he just doing more of the same and is very focused on himself right now and hey, it's not wrong, it's just him and this is what he wants/needs right now. I'm sick of beating my head against a wall though. So I figure that maybe reaching out to him and trying to resolve things was maybe what I needed for closure because I'm just ready to let everything go now and don't feel so postively awful like I did last weekend.
Everyone needs to find their own path to what helps them heal. If your ex calls, just tell him you are all set after all and leave it at that.
Best,
Erin
I did worse than u when me n my ex broke up 3 weeks ago. Like u, I needed a closure from him for me to move on n I have to say the break up came pretty sudden (at least to me) n i just wasnt prepared to accept it.
I called n email him millions of times n eventually he told me its over via instant messaging n i cfm that he has found someone new without me knowing the whole time...
I was hurt n sad but i still sent him a 'thank you n goodbye' email.
A week later, he called me n told me he loves me n not the girl... he said the girl was just there to 'distract' him when he tot its over for us (but lookin back, the time when he has asked me to wait for him n told me he loves me, he was actually starting a relationship with this girl!)
The conversation changed everything. It changed my view on him n he made me realise i m glad it happened now than later. I dun want to be with a cheater.
I dun have the urge to talk or email him anymore. I told him he can have her n i m out of this. Since then, he has been emailing me...
So i guess talk/ closure is good.