I dont get it!!!!
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I dont get it!!!!
| Sun, 08-19-2007 - 7:47pm |
I don't get it! My ex and I have gone three weeks with almost no contact. Well I'm calling him my ex but a week ago he was saying we were not broken up. I'm still living as if I'm single. My question is why did he leave and has made no effort to see me but he says that he hopes I still love him, that the thought of us apart makes him very very sad, that he sometimes wants to call me so bad but he distracts himself because he doesn't want to break down in front of me. If someone has feelings and emotions like this why does he continue to stay away? Will someone please explain this to me becaue I don't get it.

Hi little_one8,
Relationships include a willingness to be vulnerable to the other person you are with. If he's not willing to do this, has too much pride, etc.... well, I'm not sure any of us can answer what's going on inside of his head. You have to talk back to those thoughts in your own head, meaning the answer doesn't matter. Of course our logical mind and ego wants to have an answer so we can understand it and accept it.
Sorry you are going through this.
If it looks like a break up and smells like a break up...it's probrably a break up. ^^.
Sorry, I don't like mincing words. It sounds waaaay too much like my ex. "I'll promise you " But that's all it is..TALK TALK TALK TALK TALK. My guess is he's happy in his self-pity limbo here. You're waiting for him so he doesn't have to deal with the jealousy AND he gets the freedom of a single life. Wow. And all at the cost of your emotional well-being. Must be so rough on HIM. The hardships of the heartless. --''
Man, I'm bitter today.
cheers
Susanna