I don't get it.....

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Registered: 12-11-2004
I don't get it.....
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 10:01pm
I don't understand this at all. I was with this guy for 11 months. The first 4 months were great but then he started getting very jealous and upset over everything I did. And when he got mad he use to call me names and accuse me of cheating on him and i would get fustrated and i would tell him its over and he would call me 15x till i finally picked up the phone and he would apologize and we get back together. Well after 6 months into the relationship i had to move back home due to some family problems and we were kind of in a long distance relationship... He was calling me everyday telling me he misses me and wants me to return as soon as possible so we can get married and move in together and he cant live without me. Very passionate... That was in the beginning then he started getting jealous again when i didnt answer my phone, when i would get out of work late or why i havent finished everyting i had to take care of to come back to him and we started arguing alot because i was working yet he wasnt doing anything just waiting by the phone for me to call and i was getting fustrated that he wants to move in together and do all the things we planned on doing yet I was doing all the work. Not only that but his mother even called me and asked me when i plan to return and when i will finish cuz her son is lost without me and he sits home crying everynite waiting for me. This was going on for 3 months then a friend of ours was in town and he kept asking me should i go meet up with her? I dont feel comfortable without you to go, I was ok with it, I never told him not to go. SO he went and met up with her and about a week later calls me and tells me its over and started accusing me of cheating on him and she told him everything. I told him she lied cuz i was always faithful to him. Even though we broke up we were still on the phone everyday and still telling each other how much we love each other. a month later he goes and moves in with her and tells me never to talk to him again...But the day before he left he told me he misses me and loves and cant wait for us to be together again!!! Now 2 months later I found out that he was telling his friend (which use to be one of his best friends but they got into a huge fight and now are not speaking) while we were together that he considered me overweight and unattractive. Which to me doesnt make sense cuz he was always chasing me around,he was scared of me cheating on him and if he was that embarassed of me why was he introducing me to his family as the girl he wanted to marry and have a future with? It just dont make sense!!! But then again if he reallly loved me and was crazy about me why did he run off with our friend?? And to top it all off he doesnt ever want to talk to me again! He doesnt want to explain himself he wont even take any responsibility for his actions. None whats so ever.. I just dont understand what happened does anyone have any insight on this... is he schizophrenic or something? He did like a 360 overnight... How does that happen?? I mean all the time when we would fight and he started calling me harsh names i get upset and hang up on him and he would go crazy and call me like 20x (NOT EXAGGERTING) till i finally picked up and he would apologize and even when i would get fustrated and break up with him he woulnt allow it. He told me if i wanted to break up i had to go see him and do it face to face and how can i throw away everything we have and the love he has for me?? But what has he done now??? He went with another girl and then decides to break up with me!! He even has the balls to blame it all on me... saying I am the one who messed things up by hanging up the phone and breaking up with him all the time!! Can someone please explain this to me??? I dont get it..........
Edited 6/1/2005 12:12 am ET ET by krazychick2004


Edited 6/1/2005 12:36 am ET ET by krazychick2004